Avoid the Pitfall of Excessive Positivity
SOCIAL MEDIA MAVENS OF ENTREPRENEURSHIP ARE FOND OF PREACHING THE UPSIDE OF UNBRIDLED POSITIVISM, BUT ...
We daily see posts on social media extolling 1) the virtues of getting outside of your comfort zone, 2) learning that positive attitude conquers all, 3) that entrepreneurship is the fastest path to realizing all of your life's dreams, and/or 4) some other half-assed, super-optimistic drivel.
Out of work or weary of your routine job working for someone else? Start your own business. After all, it only takes an idea — sound, innovative, trite, or crackpot, no matter — and a positive attitude.
Depressed? You only feel that way by virtue of the limitations you are placing upon yourself. Shape up and understand that your fate is entirely in your own hands. The "right" attitude conquers all. And with the right attitude, your potential is limitless.
It's mostly poppycock, intended to make you feel warm and fuzzy, maybe sign up for some life coaching or an exercise and diet program for budding entrepreneurs. Or, perhaps, just to build a following for the author of the post, since nothing attracts flies as much or as well as poppycock — unless, perhaps, it's bull chips ...
The snag is that Excessive Positivity is not alway benign ... at times, it can be actively damaging ...
And never more so than in the sphere of small business. Consider, if you will, the following "case study".
I was not too long ago contacted by an upstart entrepreneur who was running into problems getting a project off the ground. The primary problem? Revenue was not developing as expected, and significant financial loss was looming on the near horizon.
This would-be entrepreneur had jumped into the project with both feet, propelled by a burning sense of purpose and optimism and encouraged by others who waxed supremely enthusiastic over the core idea — on social media.
However, when the transition was made from ideation to instantiation, the hard bumps of reality began to intrude. Sales continued at a level far below expectation. And the project was headed inexorably toward the Red Sea and some very painful losses.
It would be easy to jump to the conclusion that the venture was suffering from lack of planning ... However, that inference would be wrong ...
A business plan had been developed, including revenue forecast against projected expenses and a break-even analysis. Could the business plan have been more comprehensive? Perhaps. But it wasn't a lack of planning that was the problem. Rather, it was an overly optimistic expectation of initial market response, that is, early sales.
Part of the problem was also that an alternative "Plan B" had not been developed to anticipate the possibility of what, in fact, happened. Was that unusually naive? Again, perhaps, but more likely, the result of trusting correspondents and respondents on social media.
For on social media, I've seen many times more than once memes and posts that proclaim sayings to the effect that, "If you feel the need for a 'Plan B', you lack faith in your Plan A and will doom it to failure." As though somehow optimism and positivity — not to mention having no alternative — can somehow function to overcome all problems.
As someone who has spent most of his adult working life in the small-business sector, let me tell you that nothing could be further from the truth.
In a September 2013 article, The Wall Street Journal reported that 56% of Americans thought themselves capable of starting and running their own business, while against this ambience of willful optimism and confidence, there stands a sobering reality of statistics that predict about half of such businesses will fail within the first couple of years.
So, where does all this positivity on social media come from? Well, that same WSJ article reported that, of the 56% of Americans who expressed positivism toward small-business creation and operation, only 6% actually ever undertook to put their beliefs into real-world practice — that is, actually started and attempted to run their own business.
"P" can stand for "positive", but also for "pollyanna", and if you are considering starting a new small-business venture, you would do well to assure that you understand the difference between the two ...
A major and very successful entrepreneur, who was at various times my client, boss, and friend, once told me that if he listened to his accountant, lawyers, and planners, he would never have acquired any of the 125 companies that he bought and built. So instead, he said, he went mostly with his instinct — which worked for him since, at the time (2001), he was worth some $1.8 billion.
Of course, he could tolerate an unusually high level of risk. And tended to treat just thinking of something the same as having it actually accomplished. Which might work for you as well. But more likely, won't.
The better way for most of us is to avoid the pitfall of excessive positivity.
Like the would-be entrepreneur mentioned in my "case study", most of us are better off following a more conservative path that includes:
- Developing not only Plan A but Plan B in case Plan A does not prove out in reality.
- Developing not only Plan B but Plan C in case Plan B does not prove out in reality.
- Always be conservative when estimating initial market response.
- Never expect a new small-business to support itself during its first year of operation.
- Make sure you have the capital resources to support the business, or at least yourself, for the first year.
- Last but far from least, establish an abort trigger — and stick to it.
Starting a new small-business venture without first establishing an abort trigger is like selling short in the stock market — your losses can be potentially unlimited.
A well-delineated abort trigger helps prevent you from becoming like the losing gambler who keeps doubling down in order to recoup un-recoupable losses.
The abort trigger should represent the point at which any developing losses or other factors such as lack of sales reach the maximum you can tolerate and/or support without irretrievably damaging yourself financially or personally going forward. It is critical to have one because it is one thing to lose a pile money and have to start over again, while it is quite another to lose a pile of money and never be able to recover. It is also one thing to lose a business you're trying to start, but quite another to lose your spouse and family in the process — something I've witnessed more than once over three decades in small-business and small-business consulting.
Understand that none of this is to counsel fear or negativity, but only to caution you to employ reasonable prudence and good judgment. And to avoid the kind of excessive positivity that is showered upon you on social media.
My best wishes to you for a successful and prosperous New Year 2017. (Update: 2018)
— Phil Friedman
Postscript: Please do not mistake what I've said here as a discouragement to pursuing your dream of having and running a small business. For it is not intended to be such. I have spent the vast majority of my adult working life as a small-businessman and small-business consultant. And looking back, I would not have had it any other way. — PLF
Author's Notes: If you found this article of value, you might also want to look at some of my other writing about small business operations, management, and marketing:
"Common Myths About Starting Your Own Small-Business"
"Small Businessman's Primer to Inbound Marketing"
"Maximizing Throughput on Fixed Assets and Overheads"
"Small Businesses Need to Keep a Close Eye on Gross Profit"
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Phil Friedman
3 years ago #75
Yes, I tried your service and it was pure crap. Please keep your ads off my discussion threads.
Phil Friedman
6 years ago #74
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #73
Well, mama, if irony be sand, den you be da' Sahara Desert. :-) Which one of us is dating him- or herself more, Nicole?
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #72
Thank you, Jared, for the interesting facts about Branson. What always amazes me is that the prophets of you can-do-anything-if-you're-positive-about-it completely overlook the real facts about most successful entrepreneurs. Perhaps because they don't really understand business. Well no, it must be more than that. Building on your example of Richard Branson, do they think he set out all those times to become the first man to hot-air-balloon around the world non-stop solo with just a smile and his toothbrush? And, of course, a positive attitude?
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #71
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #70
OMG, Nicole Chardenet, I get the shivers when you talk Chicago-ese to me! Cheers!
Wayne Yoshida
7 years ago #69
Phil - exactly my point. Attitude / motivation is not enough - gotta kick in reality and actions to get it done. Sort of like my post about transferable skills -- https://www.bebee.com/producer/@wayne-yoshida/re-inventing-yourself-got-transferable-skills And yes, there are all kinds of lessons from the Theranos / Liz H story in that article. Happy New Year.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #68
Wayne, the Theranos/Elizabeth Holmes story is a fascinating study in how warped the investment capital market has become. And I recommend that everyone read the piece. Thanks for the link. But back to the point, you say, " While a positive attitude can get anyone motivated..." However, while a "positive" attitude can help one stay motivated, I think the motivation itself does not derive from one's attitude, but from one's desire to achieve a given end. Moreover, be that as it may, attitude without action doesn't take you anywhere. And I don't think you have to believe that with a positive attitude you can accomplish anything or everything, in order to accomplish something real and valuable. Which is what I think you are saying as well. Thanks for reading and commenting. Cheers!
Wayne Yoshida
7 years ago #67
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #66
Lyon, you are correct. I am never a fan of those who make their fortunes selling Kool Aid whilst pretending it is liquid gold sent by the gods.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #65
Mohammed, in the main, I agree. I would add, though, that even given all of the ingredients you cite, one can also use a bit of luck. Sometimes hard work and a positive attitude are just not enough. Thank you for reading and sharing this post. My best to you for 2017.
Lyon Brave
7 years ago #64
Mohammed Abdul Jawad
7 years ago #63
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #62
Praveen, I feel for your friend. Although I have to say, from what you've outlined, he structured his business venture poorly by not recognizing contribution of hands-on labor. His agreement should have been for a sharing of profit going forward -- after payment to those who contribute hands on labor -- with him taking the lion's share of that profit for having the ideas and owning the company. I hope he gats it sorted out. Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #61
Praveen, I feel for your friend. Although I have to say, from what you've outlined, he structured his business venture poorly by not recognizing contribution of hands-on labor. His agreement should have been for a sharing of profit going forward -- after payment to those who contribute hands on labor -- with him taking the lion's share of that profit for having the ideas and owning the company. I hope he hats it sorted out. Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #60
thank you, Mohammed, for the wise words. I say what I am moved to say, in the way I am moved to say it. And I have no need to "convince" people, for I am not being paid to convince them -- at least not on beBee. If someone, anyone can benefit from my sharing of experience, I am good with that. And if not, then no matter. Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #59
Thank you, Debasish, for reading and commenting -- I think. Cheers for 2017.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #58
Aleta, thank you for reading and commenting. I agree with you that one can have the best of ideas for a business, plus do everything "right" yet still fail. Success in business always has a component of happenstance and luck, often called "timing". As to seeking instant "success", one only has to realize that one of the attractions of social media is that people can instantly designate themselves to be entrepreneurs, gurus, ninjas, thought leaders, and the like -- all without having a clue. Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #57
Thank you, Mohammed, for reminding me that there are many readers out there who think what I publish is a joke. :-) Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #56
Yes, Jim, very true. Which is why I say that excessive positivity is not always benign, but in the real world, can be actively harmful -- to family, friends, naive investors, and oneself. Thank you for reading and commenting. My best to you for the coming New Year.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #55
Thank you, Bernard, for reading and joining the conversation. I not only agree, but admire your terseness of expression. Cheers and Happy New Year.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #54
Thank you, Mohammed, for a great metaphor. The first danger signal should be when one begins to think it is all so easy and requires only a positive attitude. At that point, one needs to check to see whether one is holding the bull by the horns or simply grasping some part of one's own anatomy. :-) Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #53
Thank you, Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier, for reading and joining the conversation with some sage advice. Seriously. One of the things that would-be entrepreneurs and small-business owners (not in my book necessarily the same thing) need to understand from the get-go is that there is no "Start Your Business" app for automating the procedure. You actually have to take the time and make the effort to learn, understand, and implement information and related skills. Cheers to you for a healthy, happy, prosperous New Year.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #52
Harvey, you make several excellent points in this comment. I always ask myself about motivational speakers, especially those who push uber-positivity as the answer to being successful in business, "If you hold the key to success in business, why are you running this motivational speaking operation? Could it be that you can make more money telling people how easy it is to succeed if only you are positive, than by actually running a business?" Same kind of question I ask "financial consultants" who want to sell me stocks and bonds. Thank you for reading and joining the conversation.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #51
Thank you, Harvey, for reading and commenting. And especially for bringing Ian Weinberger's post to attention here. I have read it, endorse the lesson it proposes to teach, and have shared it. I highly recommend it as a must-read. ( https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ian-weinberg/drowning-in-snake-oil ). You are correct that stepping away from uber-positivism is a risk for writers on social media since so many use it as a playing field for building a fantasy life and various other activities involved in self-delusion. Unfortunately, there are people who are harmed by all the nominally "good" feelings and positivity being expressed. Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #50
Thank you, Pascal, for reading and commenting. I agree that success in business is never a gift left by Santa Claus. Neither is it something attained by writing positive inspirational sayings on your bathroom mirror (or reading them over and over again on social media). My best to you for a healthy, happy, prosperous 2017.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #49
Thank you, Zacharias, for reading and joining the conversation. I agree with you. We need to be motivated by optimism always but kept on our feet by a degree of caution and balance. Plans B and C may hopefully never be needed, but good nevertheless to have in our pockets. Cheers for a great New Year coming in 2017.
Jim Taggart
7 years ago #48
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #47
Todd, thank you for reading and especially commenting with such candor. I was hoping that this piece would draw out those with real-world experience to talk about their experiences. Which in the world of small-business, indeed any part of real-world business, includes missteps and failures from which we can all learn. As an aside, when I was in NZ, we went down to Queenstown to the bridge over a dry river bed that was the original location of bungee jumping. Planned to do the jump as one of my bucket list items. Got there to find that the operation's employees hooking up and adjusting the bungee lengths based on weight and judgment (just long enough to lightly kiss the river bed before yanking you back into the air) were ALL FREAKIN' TEENAGERS. Kept my money and went to a pub for a pint instead. My best to you for a healthy, happy, prosperous New Year. Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #46
Thank you, Mohammed, for reading and joining the conversation. I agree. The world of business start-up has become almost entirely a Las Vegas or Monaco style game. Few start-ups seek to generate profits, but rather live on the inflow of investor capital, underpricing the market while they grab market share in an attempt to cash in on an IPO, immediately after which ownership bails out and exits. Value is no longer related to anything we might recognize as traditional. It is all about buying and reselling stock at a profit, the epitome of a pyramid scheme. Get out soon enough and you win, with only the last people to depart left holding the bag. My best to you for the coming New Year.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #45
Thank you, Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier, for joining the conversation with some sage advice. I agree with your points completely. To which I would add, a would-be entrepreneur or small-business person (not in my book the same thing) should understand that there is no "Start My Own Business" app. You actually have to learn, understand, and implement a mountain of information and skills. One of which is the skill of avoiding self-delusion. My best to you for a great 2017 business-wise and otherwise. Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #44
Thank you, Cory, for reading and commenting. I agree completely that nobody ever starts a new business or buys and existing business thinking that he or she is going to fail. Just as nobody who rock climbs expects to fall. But in both cases, it does not hurt to use a safety line, where feasible. Which is why I closed the piece by saying, "Please understand that none of this is to counsel fear or negativity, but only to caution you to employ reasonable prudence and good judgment. And to avoid the kind of excessive positivity that is showered upon you on social media." Cheers and best wished to you for a healthy, happy, and prosperous New Year.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #43
Thank you, Paul, for reading and for sharing your views. That is precisely why I wrote this piece, namely, to draw out people with real-world business experience to the conversation to share their experiences. For the record, the "case study" is not about you. I purposely kept the description vague, first so as not to cause anyone embarrassment, and second, so that those who might see themselves in it would speak out. But no matter, for we are all friends here (I hope). I personally have also started and run several small businesses and worked in the turnaround of several others, a couple not so small. Most of those details are included in my LinkedIn profile because marine industry operations and management consulting is part of my core business. I agree with you that the digital (virtual) world presents the opportunity to do some small-business start-ups with capitalization via sweat-equity. Still, one must consider the cost of such sweat-equity in terms of lost opportunity. For example, if you work a "day job" and do a start-up in the evenings and on weekends, you can get a lot of digital work done with no cash outlay. But do not forget that, if you have the energy to do all that start up work, you could be working a second paying job. So your investment of sweat is not without cost to you and potentially your family. In this piece, I in no way question whether anyone should make a run at starting a business. I only counsel avoiding excessive optimism -- of the variety that refuses to consider and allow for the risks and costs. Cheers!
Milos Djukic
7 years ago #42
I agree with you Phil Friedman. Valid business advices for sure.
Harvey Lloyd
7 years ago #41
Harvey Lloyd
7 years ago #40
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #39
Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris
7 years ago #38
Javier Cámara-Rica 🐝🇪🇸
7 years ago #37
Phil Friedman best wishes from Madrid ! HAPPY NEW YEAR
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #36
Milos, if you review my article you will see that I do not question the value of positive emotions to maintaining mental health and well being. What I point out is that excessive positivity that squelches healthy and rational concerns, especially in business, can lead to harm. My thesis has little to do with emotions themselves, but rather with the potential harm an overbearing excess of unrealistic positive emotions can lead to in s defined context. So pardon me if I am somewhat at a loss to see the relevance of Prof Frederickson's work to my business-related article. Cheers!
Milos Djukic
7 years ago #35
Milos Djukic
7 years ago #34
That's great Phil. I still have a highly positive approach.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #33
I do forgive you, Milos, for that. Especially since I do not have a PayPal account. Which makes it ever so odd that periodically I receive an email notice from PayPal telling me that my account with them has been compromised and asking me to send by return email my account details so it can be fixed.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #32
Autorasa, be well and have a healthy, happy, prosperous New Year. There is a seat at the conversation table on my posts any time you choose to return. Cheers!
Milos Djukic
7 years ago #31
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #30
David, I agree that those who never fall never climb. And those who never fail, never try. But the wise rock climber uses a safety line. It doesn't always prevent a disaster, for rock climbing is dangerous. Still, not to use one is, to my mind, foolhardy. And there you have a metaphor worthy, I think, of Ali Anani -- well, almost. Cheers and best wishes to you and yours for 2017.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #29
Jim Murray
7 years ago #28
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #27
Thanks, John, for saying. The same to you.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #26
Aurorasa, I've been saying to people to send me the tab for years. But as my longtime cohort from LinkedIn, Andrew Books, knows, I am referring to the tab from the BEER CAN. I wish I could say sorry for the confusion, but I can't in all honesty. LoL.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #25
Devish, in order to remember it better, think of its author as the good looking guy in the cap. Cheers!
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #24
Thank you, Jared, for reading and for the kind words. "Sage" might be a bit of an overstatement, but I won't turn it down. My best to you, as well, for a healthy, happy, prosperous New Year.
David B. Grinberg
7 years ago #23
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #22
Thank you, Franci, for reading and for the kind words. I think you put it very well. I am cautious and aware when, for example, I go to an outside teller machine to withdraw cash from my account. But that does not mean I am negative or fearful. For there is a difference. Understanding and preparing for a potential business downside is not to be negative, just cautious and aware of the real-world possibilities. Cheers and best wishes to you for 2017.
Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
7 years ago #21
Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
7 years ago #20
Phil Friedman, absolutely i agree and find your post relevant. Was just thinking out loud to have a way to refer back to it and remember it :)
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #19
#29 Aurorasa, firstly, I think you may be a bit too sensitive. I tell lawyer jokes all the time (ask me about my Pfizer lawyer joke sometime) and I have at times criticizes "sharp" lawyers. But I have a number of lawyer-friends, and they do not take offense or feel defensive. A while back, I wrote a piece, "The Monetization of Desperation" ( https://www.bebee.com/producer/@friedman-phil/the-monetization-of-desperation ) in which I "criticize" people who take advantage of social media of those desperate to find work, including SOME resume writers, employment counselors. and job search coaches. The piece first appeared on LinkedIn, so you might imagine the reaction. But the good and honest people who deliver true value to clients in those areas did not take offense -- people like Marietta Gentles Crawford ( https://www.bebee.com/bee/marietta-gentles-crawford ), whom I would recommend without reservation to anyone needing help with branding, personal or business. Or John White, MBA, who operates Social Media Solutions. Cont... Pt II
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #18
#29 Aurorasa -- Pt II -- Indeed I recently launched a writing-improvement course ( https://youtu.be/NclVfj7cJqA ). And if you wrote a piece criticizing people on SM who profess to teach writing, I would not take offense. I would just assume you were not talking about me. Because I know that I offer and deliver value. And I am confident that you do as well. So relax. Have a stein on me. And send me the tab. As to excessive positivity potentially doing damage, it does in business, if it leads to ignoring taking steps to deal with underperformance. I also think that propagation of the view that a positive attitude conquers all obstacles and problems often makes people feel failure more sharply than otherwise. As well, it denies the very real truth that, notwithstanding the best ideas and planning, and the hardest and most dedicated efforts, success is still sometimes a matter of happenstance and luck. As is failure. I agree with you when you say, "Positivity does neither mean ignoring reality nor being delusional or substituting discipline and action with affirmation." But your reasonable interpretation does not match what I often read on SM. And it is that I am targeting in my comments. Thank you for reading and commenting. Cheers and best wished to you for the coming New Year.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #17
Devesh, I think that you and I agree -- for the most part. I think. What I am talking about here is how being overly optimistic in business can lead one to fail to prepare properly to mitigate damage, should things not go as planned. And that people who go around on Social Media telling the uninitiated and somewhat naive that all hurdle fall before a positive attitude, often actually cause harm. Thank you for reading and commenting. My best to you for the coming New Year.
Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
7 years ago #16
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #15
Thanks, Kevin for reading and commenting. Obviously, I agree that planning is important, but believe it just as important to plan for potential bad results as well as for good ones. Some people can fail time and time again, and simply pick themselves up and go again -- indefinitely. Indeed, that may be one of the attributes of being a true entrepreneur. But most people cannot. So it is important, to my mind, to take steps to minimize the lingering damage caused by failure or miscalculation. Cheers!
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #14
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #13
Thanks, Jim, for the kind words. You are correct about what transpires to a large extent on SM. It could be a place for the free sharing of knowledge and experience worldwide, to all of our benefits. But instead, it has developed as a "place" of fantasy and self-delusion, where everyone who is unemployed styles him or herself an entrepreneur, where everyone with a little knowledge becomes a self-designated guru, and where people lionize the "fake it until you make it" pronouncements. We're constantly told by some that being positive always is the way to make things better for everyone. However, am contacted, more frequently than I would ever like, by people who have been drawn down the garden path by all the "positivism", and I see that underneath the veneer of good things happening for all, there is a muck of desperation and hurt caused by everyone thinking that everyone else is doing so well and has such a great life. (This BTW has been well documented by those researching the connection between SM and the increasing levels of depression in our society.) Which is why I think that unbridled positivism is not simply benign, but actually causes harm way too much of the time. Cheers for 2017 back to you, bud. Hope you're enjoying your time with your family. And I look forward to doing the next HE SAID HE SAID with you.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #12
Max, because it is the end of 2016, although I refuse to enter into a discussion with you, I will answer your questions. 1) I generally respond to people who comment. However, in your case, I choose not to because the last time you "quit" beBee in a huff, you posted scurrilous and libelous untruths about me on your personal website. I reiterate that while I do not attempt to interfere with free expression on my posts, I am not under any obligation to answer or to pay attention to what you say. 2) For the record, I see virtually every comment that you make anywhere as self-centric and mostly full of claims that you are making about yourself. 3) I tag people in the comment thread because that is my prerogative and it is a way of assuring that certain people see the post involved. It is your prerogative to do the same with your own posts, and I don't give a damn whether it meets with your approval or not. 4) I checked your LinkedIn profile out of curiosity, after seeing your claim that you were one of the first 25,000 non-Influencer writers invited to "publish on LinkedIn" in 2014. However, I could find no posts or other evidence that you publishing on LI dates back prior to 2016. I draw the obvious conclusion, but make no further comment. 5) I have no interest in you or what you do or say. Which is why I generally do not comment on your posts or comments. And I would appreciate it if you would pay me the same courtesy. At least until beBee rolls out its "block" function, at which time the issue will quickly become moot. My best wishes back to you for a healthy, happy, and prosperous New Year.
Jim Murray
7 years ago #11
Randy Keho
7 years ago #10
Thanks, Phil I'm looking forward to a bull-chips free New Year's Day, but I'm sure they will re-appear the following day. Oops. It appears I've already broken my resolution to think positively. Damn. I hate when that happens.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #9
Thanks for saying so, Don. Am reading the final version of your book "Riding Shotgun -- A book for men and the partners they care for" this weekend. The early selections already read lead me to anticipate a valuable experience. Best to Kate, you, and the kids for 2017,
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #8
#12 Thank you, Michelle, for reading and commenting. And for sharing this post. Truth be told, you are my favorite Pollyanna. And my best wishes go out to you for a healthy, happy, prosperous New Year. Cheers!
don kerr
7 years ago #7
Phil Friedman
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Phil Friedman
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Phil Friedman
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Phil Friedman
7 years ago #3
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #2
Thank you, Joseph, for reading and commenting. Cheers and best wishes for the coming New Year.
Milos Djukic
7 years ago #1