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The Cascade Effect

The Cascade Effect

Jerry Fletcher

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{GBHe’s young, not yet 25. Over the weeks as he has coached me in the gym he’s become more relaxed with me, relaxed enough to share some troubled thoughts.

I’ve forgotten what triggered the mental withdraw and a pained expression on his face. His reaction was strong enough that I climbed down off a leg machine, toweled off, and walked with him back to the office because he indicated a need for more privacy.

It’s scary.

“I’m not sure.” he said when I asked what was going on. “Lately I seem to be more touched by things. Somebody will say something and all these connections start piling up in my mind. Dinosaurs makes me wonder about all the different types and kid’s toys and think they aren’t for real and the movie guys made them up. I get wrapped up in these tangled streams of stuff and asking questions like when the water guy came in and checked stuff and told me about how there were different systems for fire and regular. I never knew that.”

Panic.

“Nothing wrong with being curious,” I said.

“Not like this. I can’t control it. It runs on and on and I can’t seem to control it. Some other part of me panics. What if I can’t stop it? What if I’m going crazy? And then I feel like I’ve had a revelation and I want to share it with everyone, but I don’t know how and that’s frustrating and scary like before but even more!”

Revelations

“I see things in my mind. Connections that weren’t there before. A comment from one of the other coaches will kick it into gear and I’ll begin to see how a mention links up with something a manager did or said. And that hooks up with something else and suddenly I understand actions I didn’t before. It’s like I’m not fast enough to see this stuff when it’s happening but the pieces of the puzzle fall together when this connection thing starts.”

A new experience

“Nothing like this happened to me growin’ up.” I never had to worry about anything. I just sort of cruised along minding my own business and staying out of trouble. I did okay in school but I was never the class brain. I got into drinking and pot for a while but since I started working here I feel like I get a better high from working out.”

The tri-part brain

I suggested that what was going on was the normal male maturation process and that he was going through a part which young men sooner or later have happen to them. He was not familiar with how the brain is structured/organized with the most ancient part still in control of the fight or flight reaction, the amyglada using emotions to make decisions even when the logical brain strings together a different answer.

The Children’s Library

“Seems to me, I said, “It’s scary because you haven’t had to deal with it before. Try focusing on just one part of the stuff cascading in your mind. Don’t be afraid of it. Yes, you may get some stuff connected that isn’t accurate. You may get some wires crossed. But by focusing on one part you will learn more about yourself and that subject than you may have ever known. If you get really interested you might study about it.

Take that dinosaur thing for instance. Look it up. Go to the library and use a trick I’ve found is really helpful: ask the Children’s librarian for a fact-based book on the subject you are interested in. That will get you the basics in understandable form. After that you can step up to more and more complex books.

Go with the flow

All of us mature at different rates. All of us build our memory banks in random increments. The path each of us takes varies from others. On occasion the path plummets splattering connections in all directions. When that happens, I suggest you select one rivulet and go with the flow.

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4d9043e8.jpgJerry Fletcher is a sought-after International Speaker, a beBee ambassador, founder and Grand Poobah of www.BrandBrainTrust.com

His consulting practice, founded in 1990, is known for Trust-based Brand development, Positioning and business development for independent professionals on and off-line.

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Comments

Jerry Fletcher

4 years ago #10

#7
Bill, Thanks for the support. This is not a task I am built for but like you, I find myself in it and will do my best to help

Jerry Fletcher

4 years ago #9

#6
Ian, I'm planning a conversation with him on Monday to suggest speaking to a professional friend. I first wanted to get my friend's take and determine if he was the right person to recommend. this is definitely above my pay grade!

Jerry Fletcher

4 years ago #8

#2
Ken, I like your chocolate bar analogy. Paint store to get thinner...AAArggh! ( I put on a pound this week. Maybe it's muscle?)

Bill Stankiewicz

4 years ago #7

Glad you were there to be of help Jerry. I have had a child with Mental Illness and have gone through some tough times in dealing with this. Thank You again for sharing and keep up the outstanding efforts here my friend.

Ian Weinberg

4 years ago #6

Important contribution Jerry Fletcher While not intending to put a dampener on things, the symptoms of this young man may be the harbinger of something more ominous. We're living in times where fear and anxiety have risen world-wide to near epidemic proportions. Frames of reference are blurring in this new global technological jungle at the expense of those "wholesome" values. Despite the increasing world population and greater communication connectivity, people have never felt more alone and isolated - most especially the younger generation. Raised amygdala activity and the associated fear, anxiety, panic and rage, compounded by the suppression of pre-frontal based reasoning is a potentially destructive space. I would suggest that this young man seek dialogue with a trusted family member, friend or perhaps even an appropriate professional.

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

4 years ago #5

Good post Jerry Fletcher. Rightly said that ‘All of us mature at different rates’. And, based on our maturity, we rank by our perception, actions and reciprocity. Truly, our brains accumulate memory as we grow in years, but it retains some and forgets some. Our memory clicks and we remember when we see something, encounter a situation or have a glimpse of some scene and surroundings. That’s beauty of our brains!
"“I see things in my mind. Connections that weren’t there before. A comment from one of the other coaches will kick it into gear and I’ll begin to see how a mention links up with something a manager did or said. And that hooks up with something else and suddenly I understand actions I didn’t before. It’s like I’m not fast enough to see this stuff when it’s happening but the pieces of the puzzle fall together when this connection thing starts.”" I call them epiphanies. If he thinks it's bad now... Over the decades, one collects bits and pieces. When the key reveals itself and slams them all together, it sucks sometimes. You must have a few here and there, Jerry Fletcher. They are a fact of life and a glorious one.

Pascal Derrien

4 years ago #3

The path of discovery is often a scary one glad he had somebody he could speak to

Ken Boddie

4 years ago #2

... by the way, Jerry, glad to see you’re keeping up your visits to the gym and winning your weight loss battle. This is something we all need to work as part of our daily regime. I thought I’d try something new the other day, so I went down to the paint store. I heard you can get thinner there. 🤣😂🤣

Ken Boddie

4 years ago #1

When I mentor younger staff on being overwhelmed by tasks or thoughts, I encourage them to make a daily list and prioritise what has higher and lower importance. To avoid the larger ones from appearing overwhelming (and hence ignored in favour of smaller ones) I suggest they think in terms of large bars of chocolate comprising small bite sized squares. Concentrate on eating the bite size pieces, along with and in between the smaller chockies, in your daily program and, before you know it, the whole bar has gone.

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