Greg Rolfe

7 years ago · 1 minutes of reading · ~10 ·

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The truth about being nice

The truth about being nice

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Our actions are ours; we act as we choose in the moment and most actions are reflexive. Those actions are based on how we feel and how we interpret the situation and most importantly our habits. When we choose to interpret our actions we interpret those actions through a filter of our self perception. This is not to say that we might not also have the interest of others in mind as well. But the facts are that self perception is involved in some manner; we judge ourselves by our personal standards. We will tend to interpret our actions as nice if we believe we are nice.

Back to the question at hand that you might be asking, can we be nice and not be seen as nice? The simple answer is yes. Being nice is highly influenced by our motivation. If it is our desire to improve another person’s day then the action was nice even if it did not come out or result in being interpreted as nice. Okay that statement was based off of a lot of cultural assumptions, many of which we honestly are not able to make, which is in itself the problem we have with being nice. What I believe is nice verse what you believe is nice. Those two beliefs may not be the same.

The idea of being nice starts with our motivation, not our predetermined understanding of the outcome but it is always judged by the outcome. True we desire to achieve the outcome we imagine, but any outcome is based off of much more than our actions or words. A nice word can warm a heart and a kind gesture can lift a head except when misunderstood by those surrounding us. The truth about being nice is that it can be a lot of work without bearing the fruit we might desire but it is always better than being, let’s simply say, not nice.

Blessings


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Greg Rolfe

7 years ago#2

#1
Brian so sorry it rook me so long to reply to your comment. To a degree this is what I was inferring but the harder reality is that "nice" is the harder choice. You are correct that being nice as a brand can be seen as less than expected or needed as Franci was leading us to consider. Claire and Bill reworded it to being polite and respectful again to develop the word nice. As a brand I would still choose a moniker associated with nice over one that positioned me as less nice. We stand in a culture that advises us to be tough but fair when what we need is compassion and respect. We need nice. Have a very nice day!

Bill Stankiewicz

7 years ago#1

I agree its my policy to always be polite & respectful at all times. Thank You for reading, Bill Stankiewicz, Professor Savannah Technical College Managing Director Savannah Supply Chain Office: 1.404.750.3200 startup community every Wed at 9am at 2222 Bull Street 1 Million Cups in Savannah Info@savannahsupplychain.com Savannah Supply Chain – Logistics & Supply Chain Consulting

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