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“The path to well-being is paved with well-doing"

“The path to well-being is paved with well-doing"

“Mentoring is a circle of teaching and
learning that rewards everyone in the


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“The way to improve the world is first by using one’s own heart and hands and head,” - Robert Pirsig

“Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.” — John Crosby 

“Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.” ― Benjamin Franklin 

Well-doing includes mentorship which often ends in friendship.

Mentorship can be many things to many people. For some, it’s traditional: someone senior takes someone junior under their wing ... for others it’s more unconventional.

There is value & reward in sharing part of yourself with another person in a meaningful way. The process requires caring, empathy, encouragement .. attentiveness & nurture. These cannot be manufactured .. for they are of the heart.

The one thing that mentorship has in common for everyone is that it’s personal:

Person-to-person & heart-to-heart.

By sharing .. we grow

By receiving .. we grow

By way of a poem, “The Pearl-holder” is about the value of mentorship & the reward of friendship.


It has been said: “in life one should always have a mentor and one should always be a mentor”


We should always be on the lookout because wisdom show up in unexpected places.

“The field of bees” is everywhere .. it is the field of LIFE

Opportunity is everywhere to give & to receive: in your family, your workplace, your neighborhood, your church .. in your inner-circle & your outer-circle.

One is never too old or too young to teach OR ever too old or too young to learn.

Mentors can develop leadership skills and gain a personal sense of satisfaction from knowing that they've helped someone.

Mentees can expand their knowledge and skills, gain valuable advice from a more experienced person .. and build their networks.

Mentorship aligns with the concept of “iron-sharpening-iron”

"As iron sharpens iron, so one man (person) sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)

In the sharpening of iron with iron, both pieces change .. the sharpener & the one being sharpened.

A similar concept is found another place in Scripture: “let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.”  Hebrews 10:24 (NIV)

BOTH grow personally & professionally .. some spiritually.

Mentoring is an opportunity to develop communication skills, expand viewpoints, break bias’s ... consider new ways of thinking and new ways of approaching challenges & situations in life and work. 

Perhaps help to awaken or DISCOVER some hidden talent ... maybe help a poet be born ;~)

The things you are mentoring & modeling are growing in you during the process.

Well-doing will increase the quality of your light & your light-emitting ability.

“We’re here for a reason. I believe a bit of the reason is to throw little torches out to lead people through the dark.” — Whoopi Goldberg 

This post was inspired by a poem of Chitra Govindraj  on LI - by this line: Everyone I believe must have a mentor or guide”

“Mental Health- Living in a Bubble”

Some of us live without knowing
Others go through hardships coping
Are they really coping though?
Most of the times we will never know

Outward a smile, a different veneer
We never realize they’ve been bullied, others sneer
What goes on in another’s mind
No matter how close we are still blind

Some say there are signs like we’re billboards
Certain triggers that mental illness is known for
Does it need an inner strength or love?
Do you need a miracle from up above?

A constant connection and compassion
Goes a long way if you have a strong companion
Support and empathy is what’s missing today
Those not in your circle you keep them at bay

Before you take your life there must be a solution
Not that you would be chained to an institution
There is communication to lure your mind
Dig and dig until you find

Everyone I believe must have a mentor or guide
So you don’t need to feel you must hide

Finding out who we each are
Is a beautiful conversation leaves no scars

Mental health why is it taboo?
Speaking to anyone could be a breakthrough.
Taking that first step, we must follow through
Chat with someone you will find
You’re not the only one who’s been on this ride and left behind.

-Chitra Govindraj


Well-being is complex because human beings are complex.



“The Fractal State of Humanity”


An excellent resource for growth: “Mind Tools”




Chitra’s post on LI


February 23rd 2021

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If my words make you think … Great ;~)

As “iron-sharpens-iron” … I enjoy bantering with other BEES … please know, your feedback is as “honey”

A glimpse of the “Bee” called “me” ;~)

My caring nature makes me an advocate. My curious nature makes me a “queen of questions” … but gifted with the ability to listen ;~) I am a woman of deep faith, a blessed mother, a voracious reader, a blossoming writer, a grateful person, and a lover of beauty … I treasure family, true friendships and my loyal clients ... enjoy traveling, learning, good movies, good wine and golf. I’m a “heart-to-heart” communicator.





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Fay Vietmeier

6 months ago #25

Alan Culler

6 months ago #24

Fay Vietmeier

6 months ago #23


@Alan Culler 

That is the pearl of wisdom “brother” Alan 

Both sides see the gift 

.. one is open to give it 

.. and one is open to receive 

.. both sides grow in ways they never imagined


Alan Culler

6 months ago #22

Thanks Sister Fay for a good exposition of mentoring -you clearly communicate the befits for both the mentor and the mentored.

In my work I saw a lot of corporate mentor programs that were less successful than the mentor and mentoring relationships than shaped my life. When I ask why that is -I come up with a critical value -choice. The mentor chooses the person he or she mentors, but the mentee must also choose the mentor.

Both sides see the gift -one is open to give it and one is open to receive it and both sides grow in ways they never imagined.

Louise Smith

1 year ago #21

Yes Fay Vietmeier mentoring is very important for both parties https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/thankyourmentor-louise-smith/

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #20

John Rylance Hope you will forgive my delayed response .. I have a friend in much need of help and my attention has been elsewhere. I loved you wisdom on this John "The road to success is lined with tempting parking spaces." M Shrive .. Lots & LOTS of coffee & flowers .. Another pearl for my "pearl-holder" ;~)

John Rylance

1 year ago #19

You might to add this to your quotaton file. The road to success is lined with tempting parking spaces. M Shrive I found it in my newspaper today under the heading One- line Philosophers. Made me thing about walking along country paths and resting on a seat to admire the view, before continuing on my journey. We need to wake up as we progress and not only smell the coffee,but smell the flowers. Pause relax and enjoy loosing some of the stress of daily life.

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #18

Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador I appreciate you Franci .. your affirmation "beautiful post" .. your shares are SWEET multiplied echo's repeat Thanks for the quotes you shared too ;~) .. the mind is a compass .. the heart a well-spring
Beautiful post Fay Vietmeier. “To be good is to be in harmony with one’s self.” - Oscar Wilde. What we feel in our hearts create our paths. It's the mind that determines what is good and what is bad. “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” - Shakespeare

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #16

Debasish Majumder Multiplied thanks Debasish for your sweet shares ;~) I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #15

John Rylance How true John .. "Difficult paths" may lead to "beautiful outcomes" It is the journey of persevering on "difficult paths" .. with expectancy & gratitude .. with the heart of an overcomer these qualities will assure a "beautiful outcome" .. and they grow during the journey

John Rylance

1 year ago #14

Great piece Fay. Difficult paths often lead to beautiful outcomes, making the hardships along the way worth the effort to overcome.

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #13

Mohammed Abdul Jawad First I hope all is well with you Mohammed .. our path has not crossed for awhile. I love what you said & your words always reveal your wisdom "In fact, goodness results in goodness. And, no goodness prospers well without the presence of meritorious love that sees truth as truth and provokes for forgiveness to cancel venomous enmity." "A good tree cannot become bad, nor a bad tree become good; whereas it is thus said, A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, nor the reverse. The tree is the soul, that is, the man himself; the fruit is the man's works. An evil man therefore cannot work good works, nor a good man evil works." ~ Jesus Christ (Matthew 7)

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #12

Harvey Lloyd A great question you ask Harvey & a hard truth you offer If the path to "well-being" is paved with "well-doing" then what motivates to want the path? .. the motives of people are often hidden .. even from their very self Man seeks actions .. God sees motives "For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. God does not judge us by our outward behavior or our acts like man does, but by the intents and desires of the heart" 1 Samuel 16 .. hard truth to consider .. "who may be worthy of our service, based on how it glorifies us" What slows "motivation to want the path?" (this is a partial list from my post responding to Alan Geller .. slow-realization .. I think it fits here too. Inquiring minds should want to know.  Closed-eyes & hard-hearts  The INABILITY to see beyond EXTERNALS  Living in externals .. results in a dull or sleeping spirit  Refusing, rejecting or ignoring God: The Author of LIFE

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #11

If the path to "wellbeing" is paved with "welldoing" then what motivates to want the path? A haunting fundamental question that science offers us no hope of answering. Philosophers only rail for or against the path itself, or how foolish we look while traversing. Wellbeing is an emergent property of acts of service motivated by glorifying God. The alternative is glorifying self. This cycle of motivation typically runs out of steam rather quickly as we judge those who may be worthy of our service, based on how it glorifies us. Great thoughts as always.

Pascal Derrien

1 year ago #10

Sharing, giving , exchanging if only we all did this :-)

Debasish Majumder

1 year ago #9

nice buzz Fay Vietmeier! enjoyed and shared. thank you for the buzz.

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

1 year ago #8

In fact, goodness results in goodness. And, no goodness prospers well without the presence of meritorious love that sees truth as truth and provokes for forgiveness to cancel venomous enmity.

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #6

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Pascal Derrien

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Phil Friedman Greg Rolfe

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1 year ago #1

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee .. you are a wind of inspiration in the field of bees my Dear Poetic Professor .. much missed here Harvey Lloyd Zacharias \ud83d\udc1d Voulgaris Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic John Rylance Lyon Brave Jerry Fletcher Royce Shook

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