Matt Sweetwood

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The 4 Qualities Required to be a Great Leader and a Great Parent

The 4 Qualities Required to be a Great Leader and a Great Parent

There’s no shortage of articles out there about what it takes to make a great leader and plenty of articles on what it takes to be a great parent. And maybe there are not that many folks who have figured out how to be great at either. I have aspired to both myself, as the single and sole parent of five children for over 19 years and president of one of the largest camera store in the United States, for over 28 years with 80 employees.

It’s occurred to me that maybe the skills of being a great parent and a great leader aren’t that far apart. What if they are actually the same thing?

Here’s how I see the four fundamental qualities you need to be a great leader in business:

Before you are a
leader, success is
all about rowing
yourself. en you
become a leader,
success is all
about growing
others.

- Jack Welch

1. You need to be desperate for success. Competition is fierce, government regulations and taxes always increase, costs always rise, technology advances quickly, and the unexpected happens. Desperation comes from knowing failure could happen at any time as you need to stay on top of it all, 24/7.

2. You have to be creative -no way around it- otherwise you just come up with mediocrity and the competition will pass you by. In the 1990’s I use to say, “If your business is not growing it’s dying.” In 2016 my proverb is, “If you aren’t re-inventing yourself frequently, you’re dying.”

3. You have to be inspirational. Want to have productive and loyal employees? Want customers to be advocates for your business? Only inspirational leaders accomplish both.

4. You have to stay open to synchronicity, intuition and the very real possibility that you don’t know all that you need on your own. Putting yourself out there listening to those that know better and believing with all your heart that it’s going to succeed.

And of course you can’t pull off any of those leadership qualities without energy. I realize I get my energy from my kids – To feed them, provide for them, get them through college and provide for a BIG and happy life for all of us. This gets me going every time.

Before you are a
leader, success is
all about rowing
yourself. en you
become a leader,
success is all
about growing
others.

- Jack Welch

And this brings me to the four things I aspire to and I believe helped me, and still help me to be a great (according to my kids and their fabulous lives) parent.

Before you are a
leader, success is
all about rowing
yourself. en you
become a leader,
success is all
about growing
others.

- Jack Welch

1. I am desperate for their success, for all five of them to live healthy, happy and autonomous lives. And executing individual life plans, with desperation and sacrifice, to get them there.

2. I have to be creative every day,  otherwise they learn to be mediocre and I become more mediocre by the day. My life gets smaller, boring and the fun disappears. There was no way to raise five kids on my own, run a business, and have an enjoyable life without being creative in making all of that happen simultaneously.

3. I need to be inspirational. Inspire them to do their best. Inspire them to want to please themselves and me. Inspire them through trust and inclusion. And of course inspire them as their sole parental role model. I repeated to myself daily, “kids do as you do.” Want them to be leaders, be a leader by example to them.

4. I have to stay open to synchronicity, intuition and let me just say it – “God.” The great joy, mystery and results in my children’s lives that seemed so implausible at the time their mother abandoned us all 19 years ago and I sat there a young man who needed desperately to grow up myself – never truly came from me alone. Yet somehow in the end, against difficult odds, we made it – and made it big.

And so in looking at what it takes to be both a great leader and a great parent, I’m thinking they are one in the same.

What do you think?

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Comments

Jim Murray

7 years ago #2

I can't imagine raising five kids on my own like you did. That's a superhuman feat. I had my hands full with two and they had a full time mom. So yeah, if you don't have set of guiding principles, I can easily see how that would get real crazy real fast.

Lisa Gallagher

7 years ago #1

Excellent tips Matt Sweetwood, my favorite which I agree with 110 %- "4. You have to stay open to synchronicity, intuition and the very real possibility that you don’t know all that you need on your own. Putting yourself out there listening to those that know better and believing with all your heart that it’s going to succeed."

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