Purposeful Anger
There are several wonderful conversations buzzing around the 'hives' lately addressing the behaviors that many of us find offensive and unacceptable on social media...or anywhere else for that matter. The comments sections are rich with input from many amazing thought leaders and have created an environment of what I refer to as 'concern and discern.'
As I was mentioned in a recent buzz as an active participant in many a 'heated debate' I felt it necessary to respond accordingly. The comments I shared with the wonderful Lisa Vanderburg were so poignant, I felt compelled to outline many of them here as a separate buzz, as these thoughts need to be shared as often as possible... A constant reminder to be mindful of our words.
My initial response is as follows:
I do not enter into any conflicts I might see here on social media with the intent to defend anyone...nor do I feel it necessary for me to do so...I enter in when something in particular moves me...not because of who may have written the piece. I find profound purpose in the energy of anger...it is a very helpful emotion in our healing process if we take pause, 'tune in' and really examine within ourSELVES what it is that triggered our response in the first place.
We are ALL wounded in some way and anger is our most accurate emotion in identifying that which needs our immediate and undivided attention. It is an offering from our senses to try to better understand ourselves and our experiences of the world. Whatever pained you, shamed you, maimed you...acknowledge it and validate it for sure...Then RELEASE it.
Your body of pain and anger is your closest friend...It will stop at nothing to get your attention...no matter who or what it uses as a decoy...and force you to pay close attention to your OWN P&Q's...Anger in and of itself has no conscious intent to hurt you...it emerges to help heal you...
It is a natural response we all feel when we see what we perceive as an injustice...and it is not necessarily all our own. In fact, it is a collective...like all energy...and nobody likes a 'bully'. Taking pause to anger is to examine the big picture and identify that which is triggering our OWN responses to it.
My best guess is there is a deep seated issue left unchecked...anger and defensiveness give rise when we are feeling vulnerable or wounded in some way...Doing a little digging and making sure it fits the current situation gives us an opportunity to respond appropriately rather than being over-run by 'reactive' emotion...Emotions are wonderful motivators but they can also be very deceptive manipulators;-)
In her recent post 'Dilemma', author Lisa Vanderburg addresses the question of morals and ethics on social media...Grabbing the 'Bull by the balls"...
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@lisa-vanderburg/dilemma
My comments continued...
I think the most important thing to remember is to modify our judgement of other people. We never know what another person is dealing with in their own personal experience. It is the ultimate sign of compassion to lift the spirit of our fellow human beings who might not be doing as well as we are in our current set of circumstances.
We need diversity to create necessary change...and who will help to create this much needed change are those who are willing to speak out about the patterns of thought that no longer serve us as a 'people'. Those who are willing to break through pain, burst through barriers and take us to uncomfortable places.
They are not new age psychos...they are the thought leaders of our future...invoking in our hearts and minds a new way of thinking that brings meaning to our lives...whose SOUL purpose is to unite...rather than destroy...And for that, I am very thankful.
To this comment the lovely Lisa responds:
This is how it SHOULD BE, lovely @Cyndi wilkins, that we are responsible to help others in encouragement and understanding. Alas, we also have to take into account those authors that take a reasonable statement that does not align with their post/buzz, and use it to pulverize the commenter, instead of either asking politely for clarification or 'overlooking' it. Again, both sexes are equally capable of offence!
My Response:
I agree wholeheartedly Miss Lisa...So my best suggestion is to down regulate the emotion...Anger begets anger...so choose the opposing energy of gratitude instead by responding to such behavior peacefully and intelligently...That in and of itself is empowering to YOU...the RESPONDER...Nothing is more disarming than a smile...Sure...they may shoot you in the head for it, but you'll go down smiling;-)
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Randall Burns
4 years ago #40
Randall Burns
4 years ago #39
Liesbeth Leysen, MSc.
6 years ago #38
thank you for having written such a wonderful post Cyndi wilkins
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #37
Liesbeth Leysen, MSc.
6 years ago #36
Liesbeth Leysen, MSc.
6 years ago #35
thank you for the tag Cyndi wilkins, wonderful post, yes, let us bee compassionate, when we take well care of anger, it can be transformed in a more positive emotion. It is a cry for attention, we need to listen to it. It is part of being human.
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #34
Martin Wright...I love how you take the frustration of dealing with scammers and turn it into brilliant detective work;-) If anyone out there is receiving emails for jobs that sound too good to be true, I suggest you click on Martin's link and do a little detective work of your own! Thanks for sharing that Martin;-)
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #33
Martin Wright
6 years ago #32
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #31
Thank you Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador...I think it's important to keep reminding ourselves that if we don't like what we see on the menu...dine elsewhere;-)
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #30
David B. Grinberg
6 years ago #29
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #28
Martin Wright...That is a perfect example for the naming of this 'buzz'...Purposeful Anger... I would love for you to share a link here to an article you were motivated to write as a result of having been triggered by anger...We can turn this frown upside down;-)
Martin Wright
6 years ago #27
Lisa Vanderburg
6 years ago #26
Well Brian McKenzie...you have a very good point. If we were all sitting around a table, I expect we'd be able to see the shades of our own coats and that would help us converse better. I know there have been a lot of buzzes/posts on this of late, but the way I see it; it's been fruitful and helping a lot of us (especially me!) understand the many choices we have in our responses not only to discuss the buzzee, but to evolve the comments, thus the conversation. I think it's healthy and much needed, or we all end up in the stone-age of FB :) BTW, I say that with good intent and respect!
Lisa Vanderburg
6 years ago #25
As kids, me and my sister (after receiving a thrashing) used to sit in the bath-tub and play 'slap'. We took it in turns to slap each other fairly gently (...okay, sometimes) round the face. It always ended up in schlapplakker. Look what's come out of all this - understanding and I'm fairly sure I'm building another brain-cell...that makes THREE!! :)
Lisa Vanderburg
6 years ago #24
had to laugh Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich....between these two platform we need a...Neuroscientist! So I read @Ian's great buzz!
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #23
Never go to bed angry...Still working on that one myself Preston \ud83d\udc1d Vander Ven;-)
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #22
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #21
That's the best Pascal Derrien;-) How many times do we have an opportunity to employ the 'smile' when our knee jerk reaction is to flip the 'bird!'
Debasish Majumder
6 years ago #20
Harvey Lloyd
6 years ago #19
Anger is a meaningful emotion, Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich, and as you stated it all depends on how we apply it. My thoughts have always considered anger or its outcome aggression as used in one of two ways. 1 The policeman. STOP! YOU are wrong. Here's why. 2 The leader, explore, engage and redirect if necessary. The policemen communication style for some reason can really get our dander up. This type seems to disrupt the flow of thought within the concepts of the post. In this way the policemen is capable of hijacking a post, maybe with a good point, but none the less, change the flavor from free flow, to focused extermination. Your thoughts are always very interesting and thought provoking.
Harvey Lloyd
6 years ago #18
I will have to say that your writings and my limited understanding, thick head i guess, have helped put legs on my thoughts. I am continuing to read your pdf, but like the eating of the proverbial elephant i am taking small bites. Thanks for your time and willingness to share your journey. You have a fascinating journey to share.
Ian Weinberg
6 years ago #17
Once again you've nailed it Harvey Lloyd Thanks as always for the insightful contributions.
Harvey Lloyd
6 years ago #16
Harvey Lloyd
6 years ago #15
Pascal Derrien
6 years ago #14
Ian Weinberg
6 years ago #13
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #12
The calming begins when our anger is acknowledged and understood...Sending you peace my friend;-)
Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
6 years ago #11
i was incoherently angry. Thought reading could calm me down but i saw a post on Purposeful Anger Thought writing could calm me down but it didn't. I had to calm myself down. You know, anger makes me forget a simple thing that i can calm myself down. Thanks
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #10
Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
6 years ago #9
Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
6 years ago #8
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #7
Lisa Vanderburg
6 years ago #6
Lisa Vanderburg
6 years ago #5
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #4
#5 Yes, I agree with your interpretation of the point Miss Lisa was trying to convey...and I felt it an important subject at this time to keep the ball rolling on it...There is such a diverse network here of marvelous voices with insight to share that it is a terrible shame for me to think anyone's voice is being 'intentionally' squelched for self serving purposes...Everyone is unique in their own way...each with their own understanding of the world around them. We are all in different places when it comes to perception of the so-called facts of life...Give people a respectful space to learn without being burned for having an opposing opinion. And this is not and should not ever be a battle of the sexes.
Ali Anani
6 years ago #3
Ali Anani
6 years ago #2
Cyndi wilkins
6 years ago #1