Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago · 4 min. reading time · ~100 ·

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"Not Knowing"

"Not Knowing"


“Sometimes we lose things before we have them” - Rob Thomas 

And ..            

Sometimes we think we “have them” .. but then they are gone.

Because .. 

“Every relationship IS just so tenuous and precarious.” - Larry David 

Hearts develop cracks .. become broken

“I love you” should not have been spoken 

“Forever” ended yesterday

“I can no longer stay”

Happiness is never two … minus one

Tell the man in the moon to darken the sun ** 


When a heart touches a heart 

There is always some part 

embedded .. that remains 

.. uniquely ingrained

.. perhaps with pain

.. perhaps with gain

It is very true ..

There's a little bit of something me
In everything in you – Rob Thomas

There is something you & something me 

In everything .. that once was “we”

One was on page nine .. the other on page three

One wanted commitment .. one would make no guarantee 


“Maturity, one discovers, has everything to do with the acceptance of ‘not knowing.” ― Mark Z. Danielewski

“Not knowing”

There are always mysteries hidden in the heart

.. they can bring us closer

.. they can also tear us apart

Some people are not MATURE 

.. they are self-oriented & insecure 

.. they are looking elsewhere .. not able to endure 

We only ever know a person .. to the degree they give access

They will start in a direction with you .. but then they want a recess 

Very often .. people do not know themselves

Self-discovery requires honest explorers 

.. if one grows .. 

.. if one then knows ..

.. if one is MATURE .. 

Perhaps deeper is the well 

Sometimes broken is the spell

Nothing strong is built on eggshells               


Doubt is built with eggshells.

There is NOTHING more dreadful than DOUBT. 

DOUBT separates people.

It is a POISON that disintegrates friendships 

.. and breaks up pleasant relations.

It is a THORN that irritates & hurts;

.. it is a SWORD that kills.  – Buddha           

Sin has a way of finding us out 

.. and so, does DOUBT              


“Doubt becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy” – fem-v

You can be certain about that.


If someone is sitting on the fence

Is suspense some kind of recompense?

Giving only half your heart comes at what expense

Better to let go .. than to hold onto shallow pretense 


“It IS better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else.” – Phil McGraw

People walking in the dark do not know where they are going .. they make unhealthy companions 

The sun comes up everyday .. but not everyone sees the Light

“In His Light .. we have light” – Psalm 36 

.. a Light to guide our path

.. Light to share with the one who might be our “better half”


The ship of “doubt & uncertainty” .. sets sail every day on the currents of change & challenge 

It is always how we respond to uncertainty that defines us 

.. change & challenge are meant to refine us ..

There are two ways to travel through life & deal with uncertainty .. the unknowns of change & challenge 

.. one is with your heart toward God .. He promises is to “take hold of your hand & help you” .. “never leave you or forsake you” 

.. the other is with your heart turned away. In which case you are on your own .. “left to your own devices” .. sing “I did it my way” 

When people you love seem “uncertain”  .. commit them to the Lord 

We have no control over people .. cannot change many things 

We are finite beings  .. “Not knowing” .. this is our given state

God is Infinite .. knows all things .. seek Him. Do not hesitate.

Trust Him .. Leave all outcomes to Him 


Be certain .. have faith

“Faith means living with uncertainty -  feeling your way through life .. letting your heart guide you like a lantern in the dark.” - Dan Millman

When uncertainty keeps you up at night, then close your eyes & think of something that IS certain. 

  • God’s LOVE
  • God’s Grace

This assurance .. will bring sweet sleep 

When nothing else to hold .. or keep 


Giving honor .. to Alan Geller

This is my “In the Light reflection to Alan Geller’s “After Dark” invitation 🌗 

Subject: Uncertain Relationships 
Artist: Rob Thomas “If You’re Gone 


Beautiful image: https://www.duyhuynh.com/

“Moments frozen in time”           (**lines from)



July 29, 2021

"In His Light" .. I write

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My caring nature makes me an advocate. My curious nature makes me a “queen of questions” but gifted with the ability to listen ;~) I am a woman of deep faith, a blessed mother, a voracious reader, a blossoming writer, a grateful person, and a lover of beauty. I treasure family, true friendships & my loyal clients. A "student at heart, I love learning: in every human dimension. Enjoy traveling, good books, good movies, good wine gardening & golf. 

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Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #12

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #11

Lada 🏡 Prkic

1 year ago #10

I agree with Paul. Your piece is food for thought, Fay. I particularly like this quote that Alan also mentioned in his LinkedIn post, “Maturity, one discovers, has everything to do with the acceptance of ‘not knowing’."

But also, as the author of the quote Mark Z. Danielewski said, not knowing hardly prevents the approaching chaos.

Paul Walters

1 year ago #9

Well, this is a piece that is food for thought…thank you 

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #8

@John Rylance 

.. that sounds a bit like the "devil you know is better than the devil you don't know ;~)


Deal with the present reality .. yes 

Start where you are with what you have 


Create what is desirous & wondrous .. together .. knowing you are on the same team ;~)

John Rylance

1 year ago #7

Not knowing can be maddening but knowing can be just as annoying. so do we leave the can of worms closed or open it.

Decisions decisions lets not be a butterfingers and grasp deal with what comes our way.

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #6

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #5

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #4

@Debasish Majumder


Multiplied thanks Debasish .. 

💛 I appreciate you 😇 times two 💛



“The sun comes up everyday .. but not everyone sees the Light” - awesome! Fascinating post, @Fay Vietmeier.  

Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris

1 year ago #2

That quote about maturity is my new email signature! :-)

Debasish Majumder

1 year ago #1

fascinating buzz indeed @Fay Vietmeier ! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz.

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