Fay Vietmeier

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"Letting Go" is a catalyst to GROW


It has been said: “Don’t hold on too long and don’t let go too soon”

"You got to know when to hold 'em; know when to fold 'em.
Know when to walk away; know when to run.
Cuz ev'ry gambler knows that the secret to survival,
Is knowin' what to throw away and knowin' what to keep.

And ev'ry hand's a winner.. just like ev'ry hand's a loser.

And the best that you can hope for is to die in your sleep.

If you're gonna play the game, boy, you better learn to play it right." – The Gambler 


In the game of LIFE .. We wrestle. We wonder. 

“When to hold on?”

“When to let go?” 

That decision will be determined by the VALUE you place on what you are holding on to.

Wisdom & Discernment are required 

What should you hold on to? 

What is truly valuable?

Your list might look different than mine .. but somethings are universal   















A willing spirit 

A grateful heart

Virtue and Honor

Reason and respect

Loving, edifying, nurturing relationships: family and friends

Righteousness - JOY - Generosity - Humility - Goodness - Kindness 


The thought of “letting go” should make you question why you’re holding on.

There is a Puritan saying: 

“Our affections bribe our discernment” 

.. what you love .. desire .. want .. 

.. who you love .. desire .. want           

Every heart has its own affections. Though they may be hidden .. unknown even to you.

Because the heart is self-deceived. 

“The heart is deceitful above all things
    and beyond cure.
    Who can understand it?” – Jeremiah 17

                                                                                          Letting go of affections is humanly hard to do.


What to let go of .. 

Everything that weighs you down & holds you back .. robs growth

Everything that produces anxiety & stress and striving .. robs peace

Addictive behaviors that impede healthy behavior .. rob quality of life

Emotions & feelings that harden your heart & impair your mind: anger – hatred – revenge - shame – guilt - biases – bitterness - selfishness .. self-condemnation .. self-loathing .. self-pity

Let go of

Toxic people 


Negative people

Negative self-talk

Unsavory relationships

Uncertain relationships 

The list of people who hurt you

The record of wrongs done to you       

FORGIVENESS is the key to letting go 

Consider this principle:  
.. if you continue to do what you’ve always done 

.. you’ll continue to get what you’ve always gotten .. or LESS.

If you resist .. refuse to “let go” 

What exactly are you afraid to know?

Hearts are easily scarred .. become hard

Minds are often BLIND .. reason is easily marred 

Waiting for people to change can lead to the graveyard 

Letting go .. can help you GROW

In life .. you will reap what you sow 

Getting you out of your comfort zone

Can take you to new places .. unknown 

Increase your capacity and your sagacity

Strengthen you .. and grow your tenacity

“The mind is a ship. The Heart gives winds.”


“Letting go”                        

.. changing your heart and in turn, your mind .. about someone or something 

.. letting go of the old .. is making room for the new 

.. I’m freeing me .. I’m freeing you 


And seasons change
But I've grown tired of trying to change for you

'Cause I've been hanging on you
I've been waiting on you” 

– Future Islands “Seasons”


It is a very difficult undertaking to “change another person”

In truth: you can only change yourself

And that is only possible if you recognize the need to change 

And possess the desire to change & are willing to do the work required.

“Hanging on” to another person is not healthy. It can lead to being controlling or being controlled .. being needy, overly attached or emotionally dependent.

Genuine LOVE does not weigh-down or imprison .. rather it lifts-up, edifies & gives wings   

This is LIFE 

Seasons change .. People change 

“You know when people change
They gain a piece but they lose one too” 

In spring things come alive 

.. it is a time to plant ..

In summer things grow

.. it is a time of blossoming ..

In fall there is a harvest 

.. it is a time to gather ..

In winter the earth goes dormant 

.. it is a time of rest & recovery ..

Each season cooperates with the changes in nature.

With awareness, there is so much we can learn from nature.

Each year .. each season .. is unique .. different. 

In each season there is gain & loss 

In LIFE there is always gain & loss. Expect it.

“Inertia, when first encountered, appears to be an immovable force. We are creatures who like comfort, patterns, and repetition… Yet change is life’s only constant.”
― Laurie Beth Jones, Jesus in Blue Jeans: A Practical Guide to Everyday Spirituality

Everything & everyone is in process. CHANGE is ongoing. 

.. change can be good or bad ..

Either way we must adapt. 

If you want to become your best YOU in the process of CHANGE:  seek GROWTH. 

.. Personal           

.. Spiritual

.. Professional 

I can give testimony that spiritual growth is a CATALYST to growth personally & professionally 

Grow with your heart – soul & spirit toward God .. Cooperate with the Holy Spirit

In the process of growing: “Let go & let God”

Lord I place into your Able hands 

.. this struggle

.. this person

.. this thing


The object in our LIFE journey is to find out what is VALUABLE & to hold on

If you find LOVE .. if you find TRUTH .. if you find WISDOM .. if you find PEAC E .. if you find Grace & JOY .. if you find PURPOSE .. possess FAITH .. then you are BLESSED. 

DO NOT lay them down or let them go. 


I leave you with “Good News”

Even if you hold on too long to the wrong things or the wrong people 

.. God is ever-present & will help you. Just turn your heart toward Him and ask. 

Only God can “cause all things to work for good for those who love Him & who have been called according to His purpose.” – Romans 8

August 23rd 2021

Giving honor .. 

My “In the Light” response to Alan Geller’s After Dark invitation 

Submission: Seasons 

Artist: Future Islands

Subject: Letting Go 


Beautiful Art: https://www.duyhuynh.com/duy-huynh-artwork/

"In His Light" .. I write

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My caring nature makes me an advocate. My curious nature makes me a “queen of questions” but gifted with the ability to listen ;~) I am a woman of deep faith, a blessed mother, a voracious reader, a blossoming writer, a grateful person, and a lover of beauty. I treasure family, true friendships & my loyal clients. A "student at heart, I love learning: in every human dimension. Enjoy traveling, good books, good movies, good wine gardening & golf. 

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Lyon Brave

1 month ago #9

Some people do not know how to love, but you can teach them. There are people who love with a venom,  but it is because there nature was made so.

Lyon Brave

1 month ago #8

I do not want to die in my sleep. I think not being awake for my last moment of life is really tragic. I want to die like a Spartan, 300 arrows in my back lol

“Life moves forward. The old leaves wither, die, and fall away, and the new growth extends forward into the light.”– Bryant McGill

Pascal Derrien

2 months ago #6

Holding to unsure certainties is a familiar pattern building new ones not so much yet we do it everyday without often realizing it 

Fay Vietmeier

2 months ago #5

Fay Vietmeier

2 months ago #4


@Greg Rolfe 


I appreciate your visit here and encouraging feedback 🍯 

“beautiful focus” - thank you 🍯

Greg Rolfe

2 months ago #3

Thank you Fay!  Beautiful focus.

John Rylance

2 months ago #2

Great piece Fay.

I like to focus on always doing and getting quote, by quoting this to my mind more positive approach to the same thing

If you want something you've never had you have to do something you've never done.

This links in with this question when was the last time you did something for the first time?

My answer I've been driving for over 50 years and never driven an automatic, until yesterday when I tried one for the first time. I like it so I bought it, and hope to achieve this quote step so far out of your comfort zone you forget how to get back.

Debasish Majumder

2 months ago #1

lovely insightful buzz @Fay Vietmeier ! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz.

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