Fancy J London

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"I have been unfriended on facebook; Oh, Dear?!"

"I have been unfriended on facebook; Oh, Dear?!"

FACEBOOK is now taking over in more ways than one, although I have been on Facebook since 2009, I have come to know many things about these "CLIQUES" of social butterflies, (In the social sciences, a clique is a group of "persons who interact with each other more regularly and intensely than others in the same setting.") that has made me become more and more disgusted with the mentality of many.

I absolutely hate to hear that kids are committing suicide, but I understand why. Everyday you see updates on how wonderful everyone's life supposedly is...This friend just got married, that friend that is in Rome, that person that just received a check for a million dollars, that woman who just lost 20 pounds not doing anything at all, and that family that always takes vacation together, are so happy....meanwhile you are in a horrible position in your life with no support and feeling depressed which makes it almost impossible to be happy for someone else. The only support your "FRIENDS" give you are cyber hugs, Emoji's, or Gif's of inspiration.

Then you get those people that copy and paste other peoples quotes, and thoughts. Telling you how to live, giving you wisdom and knowledge, meanwhile not applying any of it to their own lives or forgetting them all together.

Facebook is creating problems in society and taking away our personal space, because we LET IT! Most workplaces require access to your Facebook page and most accounts such as LinkedIn, Google+, Elance, and more link to your account making everything completely public. Which is okay if you are promoting your own business, book you are writing, websites or other work related things, but you should definitely be careful to not mix work with personal life due to all the unnecessary judgements that could be made against you. Of course there are ways you can fight this and live a normal happy life.

First of all before I continue... You must know these important definitions: Friend: a person of whom you Like, Trust, and Respect. Acquaintance: a person of whom you know, tolerate, and watch closely with precaution. Loved one: a person of whom you may rely on, love, completely trust, is loyal, honest, selfless and unconditional.

So Facebook "Friends" are not necessarily your real friends!

I thoroughly enjoy keeping up with people in my past, family that have moved away, co-workers from that job way back when, friends from church where I grew up, and that Big group of followers in all the games I need help on.

BUT, you get those occasional "Friends" that you feel bad if you don't accept them on your list, then creeps that seem to like every photo your in with scary comments that make you feel like it is necessary to block your location at all times or post things two weeks after it happened so they don't end up accidentally meeting you in a public place someday!

Then you have those people that post T. M. I. (To much information) STUFF, Such as "I am on the toilet right now updating my status!" (REALLY, like I wanted to know that?) Shortly after uploading a photo of what they left in the toilet bowl. Yeah, that is when I decided to block them!

I absolutely hate when Facebook recommends people you might know and show you numerous Facebook accounts of half naked selfies or porn like photos!

I love (Being Sarcastic) how you get BLOCKED when you friend too many people, that you KNOW! Yet they DONOT block VULGAR activity!

The really frustrating thing for me personally, is when someone close to me becomes offended when I do not "LIKE" a picture of theirs, Comment on their status or Answer their inbox message fast enough... (BUT, THEY SEE THAT I AM ON CHAT) Sorry folks, I have a total of 5000 friends and, YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY FRIEND!!!!

I know what you're thinking: "She has three accounts, say what?"

Account #1 is strictly CLOSE, Trustworthy friends and family

Account # 2 is strictly Business my Music, social contacts, university and work acquaintances. 

Account # 3 is strictly Anonymous.... Explanation, If I want to join groups, local pages and or check up on my kids....this is how you do it!

I am not telling everyone to do this, but for me personally this is a healthier way for me to keep my life personal, due to all the changes occurring on Facebook regularly, safety is a priority for me. I tell a lot of my friends to be careful when on Facebook, your location is automatically shown to everyone if you do not shut it off... on every message you send out, on every photo you upload and on every place 'Friends" tag you in.

The real reason I am writing on this subject, is that Facebook WAS a really nice idea in the beginning, now it is filled with nosey, gossiping people, stalkers, porn, annoying advertisements, viruses, hackers, bullying and more. To think my children are on Facebook (Without their real info. of course) I do everything in my power to protect my children and family, but sadly things slip by.

Lastly, (Because I could go on and on) people un-friend me all the time and guess what...

I DON'T CARE!!! If you let things like that affect you then you are going to have a lot of trouble in your life my FRIEND!


Author: Jacqueline Williams

(aka Fancy J London)

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Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

I am not a fan of FB. My husband likes it so I am sort of a member. He enjoys the videos, games, and some family ties. I like beBee, Twitter, LI and Wordpress, which keep me busy.

Fancy J London

Fancy J London

4 years ago #5

Wow, you have had it rough. Yes, I agree with a lot of what you mentioned. The original concept of Facebook 'was' a nice idea, but sadly turned into a horrific abusive, social bullying, overly self absorbed network. The problem with my line of work is that I must be available on FB for work reasons and family connections due to me living in another country. I thank you @ChasWyatt for reading my post and sharing your thoughts.

Fancy J London

Fancy J London

4 years ago #4

Thank you for the insight. Appreciate the time you took to read my post. Max Carter #4

Fancy J London

Fancy J London

4 years ago #3

Thank you for reposting @EvelynKloetzer Cheers :)

Fancy J London

Fancy J London

4 years ago #2

I agree on the frivilous part, thats for sure...but yes there are some very comical posts and videos that I enjoy posting as well! Thanks for the comment @RandyKeho Cheers

Randy Keho

Randy Keho

4 years ago #1

Until recently, I refused to join Facebook. It's frivolous nature didn't appear at all inviting. Besides, I have two ex-wives who have no business knowing my status of any kind. Fortunately, it hasn't been an issue. I joined to share some photos taken at my 40th class reunion. It's been great reconnecting with classmates and relatives I'd lost track of over the years. Most of it is still frivilous, but there's some funny stuff being posted, too. So far, so good.

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