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Facing The Fire: Release The Dragon

Facing The Fire: Release The Dragon


 "Experience is the teacher; Our response is the gateway to evolution. It is all a matter of choice."

Facing The Fire: Release The Dragon



We all have them. Those dark fragmented selves that continually rear their ugly heads to seek notice. We often see them reflected in the faces of others, as we mistakenly place judgement on those who mirror our own reflections. Is that why we dislike certain kinds of people? Perhaps it is because they reveal to us conflicting parts of ourselves we choose to ignore.
 

It is our responses to these people, (or conflicting parts of self), that creates what we refer to as "karma." It is why we are all having this human experience in the first place. We are here to work through this karmic conundrum, either consciously or unconsciously, in order to evolve. The experience is the teacher...Our response is the gateway to evolution. It is all a matter of choice.

We all have beautiful parts of ourselves as well. However, the love and compassion we possess can often be shrouded by feelings of anger and discord following an experience of extreme fear or trauma. When we are in pain, it is very difficult to see that these events cast a shadow on the very areas of our lives in need of healing.

"Where we choose to focus our energy will determine the experience of the reality that plays out for us."

For many of us, getting back on track after being derailed by trauma can take a lifetime (or many lifetimes) to heal.  As we seek a better understanding of our "selves", the external circumstances we attract into our lives all serve that purpose. It takes conscious effort to respond accordingly. If we choose love, we gain power. If we choose anguish, we lose power. Just try to remember this...That which we seek to better understand will always be attracted to us. 

The different aspects of ourselves are always seeking expression. As we develop an awareness of these splintered personalities, (yes, we all have multiple personalty disorder), we are responsible for which ones we choose to give the power of expression. Where we choose to focus our energy will determine the experience of the reality that plays out for us.

"We are constantly faced with the challenges that force us to break the cycle of worn out old habits that no longer serve our growth."

Imagine yourself embodying each of these "personalities" and ask yourself if you are willing to accept responsibility for the consequences of their actions. Which would you choose to nurture and which would you choose to release. That, in a nutshell, is the purpose of our lives here. To create an experience, through our thoughts and actions, that best serves the evolution of our souls. 

We are constantly faced with the challenges that force us to break the cycle of worn out old habits that no longer serve our growth. Just the other day I was sitting in my parked car waiting for my daughter to get out of school when someone backed right into my driver's side door. When I noticed it coming, I leaned on the horn to no avail, and then heard the crunching of the door.

My heart sank as I looked up to see my daughter standing directly in front of my car, her eyes wide open like a deer in headlights. She looked scared to death. I could almost hear her thoughts..."Please Mom, please don't kill the teacher!" 

I was acutely aware that how I responded to this situation would leave a lasting impression on the most important person in my world...Be very calm, I said to myself, as I slowly got out of the car. Much to my surprise, the door panel had popped back out into position...Thank you Subaru...I love your cars!

"A situation of ugliness has the potential to create things of great beauty."

There was a pretty good scratch but no dent. I ran my hand along the edges to see if it had penetrated the paint. I looked up at the woman who had hit me, her face was pained..."You know," I said, "I think I can buff this out."  I could hear the release of her breath, the look of relief on her face palpable.

"Are you sure?" she asked, handing me her insurance information anyway. I told her I would do what I could to avoid anyone having to deal with an insurance company. Now that is a painful experience! She thanked me and we went our separate ways. As we drove home my daughter said, "Mom I am so proud of you...You didn't even get mad!"

Hearing those words from the most impressionable person in my life made my heart feel lighter. I suddenly didn't feel so bad about the scratch on the car anymore. As a matter of fact, the situation in all its ugliness created for me a thing of great beauty. My daughter was proud of me and quite frankly, so was I.


Blessings to all,

Cyndi

 




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Cyndi wilkins

2 years ago #19

#22
Ha! So true Ken Boddie...I actually had a situation several years ago in which I was involved in an accident with a young driver who had lost control of her vehicle and spun out in front of me during a snow storm. She was very frightened but uninjured....apologizing to me profusely as we were exchanging information...I stayed very calm and just tried to reassure her that everything would be ok...We both had insurance and no one was injured and damage to both vehicles was minimal. Both insurance companies found her at fault in the accident...however, several weeks later I received a summons to court...She was suing me for damages... Turns out her mother was an insurance agent and tried to pull a fast one...Probably hoping I'd be a 'no-show' in court and they'd win by default...There's always someone trying to beat the system.

Ken Boddie

2 years ago #18

Impressive reaction to the bingle, Cyndi. So cool, calm and collected and a prime example if paying it forward. But perhaps Kipling’s “If” may be apt. “ If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,” YOU JUST DON’T FULLY UNDERSTAND THE SITUATION!!! 😠

Cyndi wilkins

2 years ago #17

#19
Thank you Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador...and for the share as well... We forget about these little gems at the bottom of the 'Cracker Jack' box...There is a prize to be had every time if we dig deep enough;-)
You handled the situation perfectly, Cyndi. I am glad you republished this post.

Cyndi wilkins

2 years ago #15

Ugliness has the potential to create things of great beauty. It casts a shadow on the very areas of our lives in need of healing. The different aspects of ourselves are always seeking expression. The ones we desire to better understand will always be attracted to us. We cannot know light without having spent some time in the dark...Could the Devil himself be our greatest teacher? I am republishing this piece in honor of you Fay Vietmeier...For your tremendous spirit of deeply probing questions;-) God bless!

Cyndi wilkins

4 years ago #14

#16
Glad you're feeling better;-)
#15
Just finally recovered from a bug that's going around. My dentist informed me yesterday she has patients canceling appointments because of it. It starts with a horrific cough and takes forever to clear up.

Cyndi wilkins

4 years ago #12

#14
Thank you Joyce \ud83d\udc1d Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee...Seems I'm always battling my own internal 'Voldemort!' Hope you are well;-)
What a great way to gain a smile. Thanks, Cyndi. You are quite the storyteller.

Cyndi wilkins

5 years ago #10

Thank you Sara Jacobovici for your thoughts and "shares"...I very much appreciate it:-)

Sara Jacobovici

5 years ago #9

Bravo @Cyndi wilkins. A great message beautifully expressed and communicated. It all starts with, "The experience is the teacher...Our response is the gateway to evolution. It is all a matter of choice."

Sara Jacobovici

5 years ago #8

Bravo Cyndi wilkins. A great message beautifully expressed and communicated. It all starts with, "The experience is the teacher...Our response is the gateway to evolution. It is all a matter of choice.

Lisa Gallagher

5 years ago #7

#9
Thanks Cyndi wilkins, so nice of you to say!

Cyndi wilkins

5 years ago #6

#7
Thank you Lisa Gallagher...I love the new pic;-)

Qamar Ali Khan

5 years ago #5

#5
Thank you Sue Chien Lee! Good day to you!

Lisa Gallagher

5 years ago #4

Excellent story Cyndi wilkins and what a great lesson to share.

Cyndi wilkins

5 years ago #3

Thank you for sharing Javier C\u00e1mara Rica and Sue Chien Lee...with humble gratitude...Cyndi

Qamar Ali Khan

5 years ago #2

Excellent reminder to remain positive in every situation. This is what the humanity is all about. Thank you Cyndi wilkins for this wonderful buzz!

Cyndi wilkins

5 years ago #1

Thank you both Madeline and Tausif Mundrawala...Facing my own fire breathing dragon is a constant struggle for me....Al\ways a work in progress;-) Hence, that is why there is water in my profile image...Never know when I might need to douse some flames;-)

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