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Aim for the heart & speak the truth in love. What will your words say about you?

Aim for the heart & speak the truth in love. What will your words say about you?

A delving question.
“How do you like it when someone speaks to you straight from the gut?” - Alan Geller

The question can be reversed.

How do others like it when you speak “straight from the gut?”

Answers offer revelation. An insight into you .. into them.


Before I answer both questions .. a detour to The Entire & The Rose – a science fiction quadrilogy by Kay Kenyon.

I read the books many years ago but there is one thing that resonated with me .. and ever remains.

The Entire has beautiful & interesting sentient beings that mirror many of earths creatures.

One is the ONYX. They are horse-like creatures. Larger & untamable except by one rider. 

Riders are blinded & life-bound to their onyx. They do not use bridals or reins. 

They communicate “heart-to-heart.”


It was during a “time-of-captivity” .. that I discovered this onyx-like quality in myself.

I am a “heart-to-heart” communicator.

Whether it’s straight from the heart or “straight from the gut”.. it is straight-forward.

I have learned that this quality can make people uncomfortable.

Many would not consider it a quality – though I do. It requires wisdom and at times courage to speak in this way.


“Straightforwardness intimidates people. They prefer the veneer, despite what they claim.” - Donna Lynn Hope

“Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’t expect it from cheap people.” - Warren Buffet

“What we say and what we mean can sometimes be two different things .. depending on what someone wants to hear.” Armand Gamache


There is a time for “straightforwardness”

There is a time for sweet nothingness .. sensual and material relationship .. as in the song;

“Call me”
He speaks the languages of love

Color me your color, darling
I know who you are
Come up off your color chart
Call me my love
Call me anytime
Call me in a sweet design

Call me with some clever line


“Call me” brings to light .. “languages of love”

Honesty & straightforwardness are true love languages.

The best way to be “straightforward” is to “speak the truth in love”


Love always seeks the best of another person.

Look within .. to be sure your intentions are pure.

Then “speak the truth in love” - Ephesians 4:15


Still, some truths are hard truths.

Hard to speak .. hard to hear.

To “speak the truth in love” with “straightforwardness” is a matter of finding the right words in your heart & aiming for their heart.

.. not roundabout or evasive; direct

.. free from ambiguity; clear

.. free from crookedness or deceit; honest


Consider .. 

The words of the mouth are deep waters, but the fountain of wisdom is a rushing stream. - Proverbs 18:4

Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. Proverbs 27:6

The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out. - Proverbs 20:5


It’s always what you say AND how you say it.

Straightforwardness without civility is like a surgeon’s knife. Effective but unpleasant. 

Candor with courtesy is helpful and admirable.” - Yukteswar Giri


Wisdom & discernment are priceless gifts

.. when choosing words

.. when speaking words

.. when hearing words


“What will your words say about you?”

Words can be TRUTH or words can be lies

Words can be foolish or words can be WISE


Words can be crooked & words can be straight

Should you be honest or do you hesitate?


Words can wound or words can heal

Words of strife .. our peace can steal


Words can DIVIDE .. or words can ignite

A nation .. a family .. to fight or UNITE


Words can make or break a deal

.. break us apart .. or help us heal


Words of LOVE .. can hate erase

.. like soothing balm .. strife replace


Words can take you captive .. words can set you free

Well-reasoned words can make a plea

 .. help us even better see


Harsh words turn a heart to stone

“Kind words” it is said “can heal bones”


Let us first our words rehearse

For words can BLESS or words can curse


And human speaking is an art

Words do reveal what is in the HEART.


https://www.bebee.com/producer/@fay-vietmeier-pennsylvania/what-do-your-words-say-about-you


Beware and be aware:

“Straightforwardness” is not always welcome and may not be wise.

We live in a time when people have no or low regard for truth.

People prefer to have their ears “tickled” rather than be confronted with candor .. or straight talk.


“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to swine.

If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” Matthew 7 **


Still ..

“He who speaks truth tells what is right .. but a false witness, speaks deceit.” Proverbs 12:17

“He who walks with integrity, and works righteousness, and speaks truth in his heart.” Psalm 15:2

“Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth each one of you with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.” Ephesians 4:25


May 1st 2021

Giving honor where honor is due: this post was inspired by Alan Geller and his “AFTER DARK invitation to reflect”

"AFTER DARK is a state of mind; where we investigate and exhibit different perspectives"

Subject: Straightforwardness

Artist Blondie “Call me”

https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6791896031241019392/?commentUrn=urn%3Ali%3Acomment%3A(activity%3A6791896031241019392%2C6791898667310739456)

My “in the Light” reflection to Alan’s invitation to “share an interlude” .. offer a "different perspective."

“In the Light” is also a “state of mind”


References:

Call Me” is based on the singer’s sensual and material relationship

https://www.songmeaningsandfacts.com/call-me-by-blondie/

The Entire & The Rose – Kay Kenya

https://www.sfsignal.com/archives/2010/03/review_kay_kenyons_the_entire_and_the_rose_books_1_-_4/


**Special mention: City VP Manjit – mentioned this verse in his excellent comment on Alan’s LI post  



"In His Light" .. I write

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If my words make you think … Great ;~)

As “iron-sharpens-iron” … I enjoy bantering with other BEES … please know, your feedback is as “honey”

A glimpse of the “Bee” called “me” ;~)

My caring nature makes me an advocate. My curious nature makes me a “queen of questions” but gifted with the ability to listen ;~) I am a woman of deep faith, a blessed mother, a voracious reader, a blossoming writer, a grateful person, and a lover of beauty. I treasure family, true friendships & my loyal clients. A "student at heart, I love learning: in every human dimension. Enjoy traveling, good books, good movies, good wine gardening & golf. 

I’m a “heart-to-heart” communicator.

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Fay Vietmeier

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5 months ago #18

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@lucy Jones the "Great Mother" reports to Father God Dear "spell caster" .. wading in dark disaster Wrong place .. RETHINK dear bee .. pushing miracles is tragic The "great Mother" has NO special magic .. heads up the our Head Bee-Keeper Javier \ud83d\udc1d CR

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5 months ago #17

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Roberto De la Cruz Utria Warm welcome my dear friend ;~)

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5 months ago #16

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Roberto De la Cruz Utria What a beautiful comment Roberto .. a sweet encouragement from your heart to my heart I shall treasure your words dear friend.

Pascal Derrien

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5 months ago #15

no sugar coating in this article :-)

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5 months ago #14

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Farooq Omar Hello dear friend .. I agree with your insights. Being adoring without being honest is bad faith. To "adore" a person .. is to love and respect them. Love seeks the best for another person .. this does not assure agreement. In some matters there might be complete disagreement .. but that does not mean people need to act or speak disagreeably. "come now let us reason together" the good counsel found in Isaiah Love that has regard for the best interest of another person .. wants them to GROW fully into their gifts & potential .. Being honest with another person is not necessarily passing judgement .. (though in certain scenarios' perhaps it is) As humans we assess .. evaluate .. use reason .. form judgements (which does not have to mean pass judgement) .. & use common sense (not so common) ;~) Wisdom & discernment are priceless in this process What you describe here: Envision if your companion identifies with you just based on adoration .. he would presumably cause you to have a positive outlook on yourself since he would consistently be certifying and empowering you, disregarding your defects since he wouldn't have any desire to offend you and would essentially leave numerous genuine things implied. To me this is describing a person who is not in touch with reality .. living superficially .. perhaps even a shallow person .. living in externals .. A person who needs to be affirmed constantly is immature and often self-seeking ..

Farooq Omar

Farooq Omar

5 months ago #13

Fay Vietmeier, Being adoring without being honest is bad faith. Envision if your companion identifies with you just based on adoration, he would presumably cause you to have a positive outlook on yourself since he would consistently be certifying and empowering you, disregarding your defects since he wouldn't have any desire to offend you and would essentially leave numerous genuine things implied. You would presumably appreciate being around this companion, however, he won't assist you with developing and grow definitely. The objective of truth that has been given to us is to adore from an unadulterated heart. So it will be amusing to utilize reality that we know to pass judgment on others instead of to adore others. On the off chance that we can't talk reality in a caring manner, it isn't accurate. It is just from a place of adoration that we ought to talk reality and look to benefit the individual to whom we talk it.

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5 months ago #12

Debasish Majumder I appreciate your faithful & sweet shares Debasish .. thank you .. always.

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5 months ago #11

lovely buzz Fay Vietmeier! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz.

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