- Producer13/12/2017No one is YOU, that’s your Super Power.18 days to 2018! Isn’t it awesome? I love this time of the year, it is just exciting!! There are so many things to do, so many messages to be sent full of best wishes and love to our friends and family on social media. I have dozens of them “in the...
- Producer13/12/2017On Writing Less & Making It Worth MoreThere was a time when the people I was connected to across a number of social media platforms kind of got used to seeing something longer format posts from me every day.And I have to admit that for a while there it became a self-imposed obligation....
- Producer13/12/2017What Happened to Your Browser When You Weren't LookingYou know browsers. They're those thingies that let you surf the net. There's nuthin' to them. Right? I mean. . . you type in a link or even just click on one, and whammo. . . there it is!"There's nuthin' to 'em," you may think.You'd be wrong. You...
Comments13/12/2017 #2 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#1 LOL, you sound like my wife with her flip phone. Here's a suggestion. I noticed that two international assassins in movies used the same flip phone model as an untraceable burner.
You're not antiquated. You're an International Man of Mystery. Come to think of it, a Chef would make a good cover. Hmmm. . . .13/12/2017 #1 Randall BurnsInteresting read @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian I guess the "writings on the wall" regarding my"Internet Explorer" as I still use that but am forced more and more lately to use "Google Chrome" to open files/attachments/videos etc. My computer is constantly asking me, "Do you want to upgrade your browser to Google Chrome now?" but I am stubborn and don't like change, pisses me off every time Windows has an update.
I'm sure this will all make more sense to me if and when I ever get a "Smart Phone' or other mobile device but I'm just now getting used to my "Flip phone" and I can finally text on it like nobody's business. Really dreading the day when I'll have to admit that it's time to hand it over to "The Smithsonian" and get something a little more contemporary, (like from this century).
I'm reminded of a quote by Charlton Heston about Guns and the 2nd amendment but I will alter it slightly,
"I'll give you my Flip phone when you can pry it from my cold, dead hands"
Informative post and I'm thankful for guys like you Pablo keeping me in "the loop" with all this "tech stuff", I've got enough other things keeping me busy. :-)
- Producer13/12/2017Facebook Launches "Facebook Creator" for Video ProducersAnother week, another blog post.. this week we touch on the recent news of Facebook Creator, we hope you enjoy it..After a reasonably slow start with the recent introduction of Facebook Watch, they have decided to boost their efforts with Video by...
- Producer13/12/2017Insects, Humans and IntelligenceHuman brains are big. Humans are intelligent, but most humans like laziness. On the contrary, the ants are so tiny, if they have brains, those are more tiny. Are the ants intelligent? But the ants are so diligent and responsible living...
Comments13/12/2017 #8 Debesh Choudhury#3 Thanks a lot @Phil Friedman for your valuable time to join my comment like "buzz" .. it is an honor. Your detailed and long reply to my "buzz" is full of scientific facts backed by reference of reputed researcher of the subject. I strongly agree with your concluding remark, which I consider as your own thinking, that metaphors can only play as a suggestive analogy, but the behavioral facts connecting the animal kingdom remains far away to be understood. That is why I chose this "buzzing" platform to write something from a perspective of an ignorant. "Buzzing" on beBee is my effort to spread the limit of my ignorance!13/12/2017 #4 Phil FriedmanIt's good to see you, @Debesh Choudhury, here on beBee. I for one welcome the presence of your sensible and genuinely scientific intellect. Please do not interpret my following remarks as being directed to you, for I have known you always to display a high level of scientific and intellectual integrity.
That said, as to your question, I would like to suggest that the perhaps the question needs to be reformulated. Some biological scientists these days believe it is more appropriate to view biological collectives such as ant and bee colonies as a single organism with many parts communicating and acting in concert for the good of the emergent uber-organism (if we may call it that) -- much like the way the cells of our human bodies act together. If we take this perspective then we might be led naturally to reinterpret what we observe about insect collectives. (continued Pt II...)13/12/2017 #3 Phil Friedman@Debesh Choudhury -- Pt II-- For example, when we look at the interactions between ant colonies, as opposed to the interactions between individual ants *within* a single colony, we find that they fight for
"Territory reasons, scavenging, and slave making reasons. Ants are there own worst enemies. When pheromones don't match when they come in contact with one another it's like striking a match. Soldier ants are nomadic and move constantly taking over everything in the way. The slave-maker ant specializes in killing other colonies members and stealing there young to raise as their own forever slaves the rest of their days. So for many reasons they kill one another. Growth, Land, resources, and just because they can. They are almost miniature human societies stretching there legs in a less civilized manner...." -- Christopher Rice, Biologist and Animal Identification Expert, Quora, 2014.
Personally, I tend to believe that the commonly referenced "cooperative" nature of insect colonies is a conceptual misapprehension, often perpetrated by writers who seek indiscriminately for metaphors to exploit in the service of legitimizing a particular view he or she happens to be pushing. Thanks and cheers!13/12/2017 #2 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeThank you @Debesh Choudhury for writing a very interesting comment. laziness and brain are they related to each other? Good question, and is worthy of Googloing.
It amazes me too that in my buzz of today on Emergence and Interactions I mentioned the human societies and the ants colonies. Why human societies lead to the emergence of disruption, but not in the ants societies? May be you could help me answer this question.
- Producer13/12/2017Coaches, why only 4% and 1% really will work .... 4U 'The Power of Nothing...'There are universal principles working in and through all of us. Simply look around you, notice what you can touch, pick up, drink, eat, close your eyes and imagine what you want. Without any limitation, without any caring of any opinion or...
- Producer13/12/2017Let's Believe In Second ChancesLet's start out by introducing a man who miraculously has come back, and beaten the odds so to speak. John has become living proof that we all can turn our lives around, and be touched by an angel. Even though we all have different ways of...
- ProducerHive🐝Talk-December 12, 2017-Featuring Paul "Pablo" CroubalianOur mastermind of myTweetPack, Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, never ceases to amaze us with his charm and wit. Oh, and yes, his brilliant mind. Paul introduced yet another excellent idea, The Best Of beBee and his eMagazine or eZine. For details, click on...
- Producer13/06/2017¿ En qué se diferencia beBee ?¿ Qué es beBee ? ¿ Cuales son las diferencias con respecto a otras redes sociales ? ¿ Por qué beBee ? Motivos para estar en beBeeOriginal at: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@javierbebee/why-bebee-reasons-to-be-on-bebee Tu contenido se muestra...
Comments11/12/2017 #31 José QuintanaPienso que beBee es sencillamente genial. Todo lo que abarca es sencillamente fantástico, desde la segmentación que se logra y el posicionamiento en buscadores, hasta el hecho de escribir sobre nuestros gustos, intereses y aficiones y poder leer los de los demás. Como siempre digo: beBee Rules!11/12/2017 #30 Irene 🐝 Rodriguez EscolarRefrescando miel de gran contenido.
Dato importante a tener en cuenta:
"Gracias al sistema de Colmenas de beBee, atraerás a más seguidores si el contenido que compartes es de calidad. Sin embargo, ¡perderás seguidores si compartes contenido de baja calidad!".25/09/2017 #28 ANA MARIA LOPEZ GILMuchas gracias, Javier. Me ha gustado mucho tu post. Yo vengo teniendo esa sensación de no servir para nada desde hace tiempo y que tengo que hacer más networking y sobre todo pulir mi marca personal. Tuve la oportunidad de escucharte el pasado jueves en #WomanGoOn, junto a otras fantásticos profesionales y me gusto mucho. La verdad es que llevo un tiempo en BeBee pero no termino de sacarle mucho partido. A diferencia de LinkedIn en el que suelo ser muy activa. Voy a intentar relanzarme y ya te cuento.21/06/2017 #22 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand AmbassadorbeBee is different from all other, but it is no surprise at all, its founders are authentic, humble servantleadership innovators, in each stages of their lives, just check their backgrounds, they are serial disruptors...still sceptical? So tell me What Mr J?Weiner dis prior to LinkedIn that millions of users were crazy about? Huh? cone...onnnnnn.21/06/2017 #21 Javier 🐝 beBee#19 @Borja Alvarez Miguel ¡ todos lo echamos de menos ! estamos trabajando ya en ello :-)
De momento puedes buscar personas: https://www.bebee.com/bees , y colmenas https://www.bebee.com/groups
Lo tendremos disponible durante los próximos meses. Mientras tanto existe un truco en Google para poder encontrar la información que quieras en beBee
Si por ejemplo quieres buscar exactamente qué hay en beBee sobre "personal branding" , sería poner en google
site:bebee.com "personal branding"
¡ saludos y bienvenido a beBee !16/06/2017 #18 Juan Antonio Pérez#10 gracias @Irene 🐝 Rodriguez Escolar por incluirme en esta conversación. Este próximo martes, 20 junio, en el taller de Competencias Digitales vamos a poner a prueba en Shogun algunas herramientas para "romper" las distancias en el trabajo colaborativo. Las uso a menudo, y se me está ocurriendo alguna que otra picardía tecnológica. Con la ayuda de @Vega 🐝 Gómez Hernández @Vicente Pinto Martín @Soledad Gómez Martín y @Carmen 🐝 Juanes Luis, vamos a intentar algo... hablamos.
- Producer12/12/2017Thoughts from a DiabeticDiabetes Thoughts Many people do not understand the difference between hyperglycemia and hypoglycemia. Hyper means high and hypo means low. So therefore, hyperglycemia is too high a blood sugar level and hypoglycemia is too low a...
Comments12/12/2017 #2 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianI have Type 2 diabetes. There was 1 additional symptom for me, crazy cramps in my calves. They would flex rock-hard and lock up.
Weight is an issue. When I lost 60 pounds, my insulin shots were removed and my other medication dropped dramatically. Now, I stay well-controlled with minimal medications.
- Producer22/06/20169 Formas distintas de hacer spam en social mediaSi estás en social media seguramente habrás sido víctima de alguna de esta nueve formas de hacer SPAM Lo cierto es que el SPAM en social media puede hacernos perder la paciencia en muchos casos. Y no es que el SPAM sea algo exclusivo del social...
Comments12/12/2017 #22 José Luís Casado#21 Gracias, @Hector Fong Mendoza y ¡Vaya! No había previsto ese supuesto. Yo no lo consideraría realmente SPAM, sinceramente, aunque puede que sí haya intención de hacerse notar a base de clicar el like. Si esa es la intención (y solo la persona lo sabe) sí podría considerarse SPAM, aunque eso sí, de baja intensidad ;-) En cuanto a los que hacen o han hecho SPAM sin saber que lo hacían, para ellos especialmente va dedicado este post. Saludos!12/12/2017 #21 Hector Fong MendozaBuen post ilustrativo sobre el SPAM viniendo de un Marketista del SEO tiene mérito .Pero algunos lo hacen estas prácticas por ignorancia incluyendo LINK o enlaces en los comentarios sin pedir permiso o por abuso de confianza.
Pero he descubierto otro tipo de Spam que es puntuar todos los comentarios de todo el mundo para hacerse visible.y cuando entras a su perfil se ve que tiene 1800 seguidores sin haber creado ningún produce y sin hacer ningún comentario y solo puntuando. @José Luís Casado..Buen post..adelante...saludos12/12/2017 #14 Ignacio OrnaPuesto que todo esto me resulta muy complejo y difícil de asimilar puesto que para mi está escrito para quienes ya saben y dominan el medio. Es por ello que muchas son las dudas que tengo después de haber leído este texto. La primera es ¿Que se entiende o que debo entender por "Tu link"?
- Producer12/12/2017The Challenges Of Being The Patient or The Care GiverDo you ever have so much going on in your mind that you find it impossible to write about? That's where I've been lately, so many life events that I find hard to put into words. I think I will start from the present first, and possibly go back in...
Comments13/12/2017 #31 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#20 Thanks @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, drawing strength from each other is so necessary. Oh I gave him a big wet kiss and he said, "What was that?" I told him it was from YOU LMBO!
Oh yea, I saw the call for action and stole it immediately. Well borrowed, since you politely and kindly posted it. Lead, really?? Wow!13/12/2017 #27 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#25 @Cyndi wilkins it sounds like your plate is over flowing. Stress sure can kill you, who's helping YOU right now? You are such a giver by nature and it's my hope that someone is lending a hand. We all need our space and time to re-energize. Sending good thoughts to you!12/12/2017 #25 Cyndi wilkins#21 Challenging to say the least...Another 'care taking' situation...right on the heels of losing my father last Christmas we have another family member in need of care. Fortunately, she's not quite as debilitated as my dad was...However, that being said, it's only a matter of time. These things can go on for years...
This is a difficult time of life...that sandwich generation when you are raising children and caring for elderly parents...The stress alone can kill you, so you really have to take good care of yourself too...Not easy to do when juggling all that AND a career...Something's got to give...I just hope it's not my own sanity;-)
So hang in there @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher...You've got plenty of company...and support...especially from those of us in the trenches with you!12/12/2017 #22 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#11 Thank you so much for your words of compassion @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. I had a few days when he was on the high doses of steroids (I should say moments w/in those few days) my mind did wander and thought, I wish I could run away... just a fleeting thought and I would never do that. When he thanked me for doing so much for him, I thanked him back because he doesn't realize how much he has done for me and our family as well. He's been a work-aholic/Type A personality for as long as I've known him and I think that in part, keeps him going even when he feels he can't.12/12/2017 #21 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#10 It can be very exhausting @Cyndi wilkins, you're so right. "Don't kill the care giver." LOL, those thoughts come to mind at times. I remember how angry mom would get at times. It wasn't often but oh boy when she was, you wanted to run, even though no one did :)) We had to make light of it. My husband is functioning right now, so for the time being I'm getting a break until evening arrives. He seems to get worse at night for some reason. I'm glad you and Deb met! How are things going on your end now?12/12/2017 #18 Jim Cody 🐝 Brand AmbassadorYour husband is very fortunate to have you and your dedication to his health and well-being. Sometimes its not the sickness or disease but our attitude that sets us apart.
Your devotion and love is exclamatory to all.
My prayers for you and your family.
Many thanks for the great buzz.12/12/2017 #17 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#9 Hi @Laura Donnelly, I'm very sorry for the loss of you mom. It's hard to watch someone with COPD because the illness can last for sometime as they struggle before it over takes them. Kudos to you and your brother for being there for her, never an easy task. There are many emotions people go through when they are taking care of a loved one... worry, extreme fear, yes anger (or frustration), sadness and many days, numb because you're just going through the motions per se. I think the numb part is protective in many ways, it helps people to manage through each day. Thank you for sharing your story. How long has it been since you lost your mom?12/12/2017 #16 Tausif Mundrawala#15 You have encouraged me to gather my wits and move ahead in life. The question of me failing to save her had almost consumed me but reading about your experiences has given me enough courage to start anew. Yes, now I am eating well comparatively what I did before.
How lucky your husband is to have you as wife. And your mom was the privileged one to have you as a daughter. You are a very strong woman and am glad to be connected with you, my friend @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher12/12/2017 #15 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#8 Hi @Tausif Mundrawala, bittersweet memories you shared! You are the example of the most loving care taker. Your mom knew how loved she was and I'm sure felt so happy that she was being taken care of by her loving son. I hope you are eating better now. You were so gentle with her and made sure all of her emotional and physical needs were met. I understand how you must have worried about her going to the latrine on her own, my mom did the same and sadly, one night she did fall and break her upper arm, that's when she became bedridden. Thank you for sharing what came to mind Tausif and best to you!!12/12/2017 #13 Mohammed A. JawadMaladies come and go, and we often rely on medicines. But more than that oftentimes it's human courage coupled with supplications and solace that bring in miracles. @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher thanks for sharing this inspiring part of your life by recalling your dear memories.
- Producer12/12/2017Top 50 eCommerce Online Sellers & InfluencersTop 50 eCommerce Online Sellers & InfluencersAre you interested in opening an online store using tools like eBay, Amazon, or Alibaba?Do you want to dropship products, or purchase them at wholesale prices and resell them?If so, this is the list...
- Producer11/12/2017Uncorking Bordeaux And The Hidden Wonders Of The Medoc.First published in Arabian Airlines in-flight magazine November 2017.When we think, or read about “Bordeaux,” one’s immediate impression is that this is a city built on wine. This is partly true as although Bordeaux is famous for its viticulture, it...
Comments11/12/2017 #10 Phil FriedmanNice read. I am certainly not an oenophile — and I rarely spend more than a sawbuck for a bottle of wine — but I have always judged the sophistication of others’ palates by whether they know and appreciate the Medocs. It is a variety almost unknown to the average wine hack, yet often the match of wines costing many times its price. IMO. Cheers!
- Producer10/12/2017عيد ميلاد سعيد يا صديقى العزيزHappy Birthday my Dear Friend Ali Anani فلسفة الحياة أيها ذا الشاكي وما بك داء كيف تغدو اذا غدوت عليلا ان شر الجناة في الارض نفس تتوخى قبل الرحيل الرحيلا وترى الشوك في الورود وتعمى ان ترى فوقها الندى اكليلا هو عبء على الحياة ثقيل من يظن الحياة عبئاً ثقيلاً والذي...
Comments11/12/2017 #30 Lisa VanderburgTo the man who enriches our lives with his gentle, joyful journey of juxtapositions; thank you dear, darling man @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. عيد ميلاد سعيد رجل رائع! and I'm late.....woe is me :(
Such a perfect buzz to find out - thank you @Laurent Boscherini!
- Producer11/12/2017Best things to do to improve your Credit Score !We all know the value of money when we need it the most. So, does the value of Credit Score (CIBIL Score) when your loan application gets rejected. Why to get into a such situation follow the below 10 steps to keep your Credit score healthy. Your...
- Producer03/12/2017And Now: Introducing The Best Of beBeeWe all know that beBee is a Blogger's Dream. beBee is the social platform that not only lets you reach whatever organic readership you can build but also helps you build that readership. Imagine that! Once your article gets 20 relevants and 5...
Comments06/12/2017 #79 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#77 So far, anyway, @Susan 🐝 Botello. The list changes pretty quickly. For example, @David B. Grinberg isn't going down without a fight, he just hopped back to first place edging past @Aleta Curry by one.
The cut-off will be January 5th. That's when the final articles for the first edition will be set. Then, every second month starting March 2018 on there will be a new list on the 1st of that month.
So, if all goes as planned, there will be a "beBee's Best" eZine every January, March, May, July, September, and November, always published on the 15th.
- Producer10/12/2017The Conflict AnimalsXmas is approaching and it is about time to turn conflicts into peace. This is easier said than done. However; the cost of conflict may reach an explosion point and nobody benefits. Conflicts are of different types. How can we fuse the possible...
Comments12/12/2017 #39 Harvey Lloyd#30 #29 "If you’re shown a hotel room you’ve been told is the Honeymoon Suite, your expectations will be high. If there’s no plush carpet, spa and champagne, you’ll be disappointed. On the other hand, if you’ve been told before the door opens that it’s a jail cell, you’ll be delighted to find even modest comforts.” C.S. Lewis
The suggestive nature within conflict is demonstrated in CS Lewis little parable above. When we enter conflict we need to be assertive, but we also need to make sure we are targeting the right stuff. In conflict we have unmet expectations. We should target the expectations as opportunity may reside within one or more of the expectations presented.
In leadership we have to scrape away the outcomes of conflict to find the source. 99% of the time it's in expectations that are in conflict. Should we make it about the emotional outcomes/behaviour we will miss the opportunity to share human capacity and increase our risk over success.
What we emphasys in conflict is what is made important in future conflicts:)12/12/2017 #38 Harvey Lloyd#30 #29 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee the question, "Where do we draw the line as to what is conflict and what is merely being assertive I wonder?" is a striking question. The question is in itself conclusive. It concludes that conflict is an anomaly to the setting in which we would be assertive.
Conflict is the contention between two value sets within two individuals or more. When our values, whether good or bad, are threatened then we become anxious and want to stop the person, idea or ideal that is causing this contention within our value set.
Unfortunately we almost never consider the value sets within our assertive intervention. We see only the behaviours that were drawn out from the compromised values in each party. Values lead to expectations, unmet expectations lead to pensive engagements. This is a natural process of the human endeavour.
What is seemingly unnatural , but pervasive, is the belief that "you/me" are the only person that works this way. We ALL have this human characteristic and great leaders know how to merge values from the most far flung positions into a single expectation, through conflict.
Great question and discussion.11/12/2017 #35 Joanne Gardocki#21 "So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment." thank you for the clarification, @Harvey Lloyd View more#21 "So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment." thank you for the clarification, @Harvey Lloyd. I look at ego a bit differently but find common ground in what you are saying. For me, "ego" is anything that would block my highest positive abilities or highest connection with others in a given situation. Absolutely, ego could be seen as the pride/vanity/megalomania you mention at the extreem end. However, being too timid to speak your truth or simply failing to really listen/connect with another is also how I see ego blocking highest positive potential. Simon Sinek has a lot to say in YouTube and TED Talks about how we make decisions and the characteristics of Leadership. Our primitive brain is highly involved and often beneath our conscious awareness, your advice to clear the Pandora's Box in meditative conditions to avoid cleaning up a mess later is akin to clearing our emotional baggage. There is good reason Emotional Intelligence is a key skill in leaderhship. Thank you for your insights and the opportunity to explore more deeply. Close11/12/2017 #33 Tausif Mundrawala#32 You have always quenched my thirst of knowledge by bringing forth these wonderful buzz in form of live examples. Am glad that you have always provided a constructive feedback in order to go ahead in life. Am glad that you did, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #32 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#31 I am very grateful to your comment dear @Tausif Mundrawala. You bring to light two important points. First your reference to Salman's Rushdi quote "He has described those men with hunger of power with heads of different animals". This is a real extension to the discussion. Instead of wearing many hats we have people with different heads of animals. You stretch my imagination with this quote.
Second- you are the first to highlight the idea of repellent. I am thankful to you for this. Sometimes repelling a conflict rather than deal with it is an effective solution.
You are widser than your age my friend.11/12/2017 #31 Tausif MundrawalaWhen two people don't agree with a given statement, logic, concept , reality etc than the animal of conflict comes into existence. Each party tries to prove themselves superior and with this motive they try to ruin the person at the other end with full ferocity. Am currently reading 'Shalimar-The Clown'- Salman Rushdie where a character of an ambassador tells a story to his daughter about the levels of power one trudges through in order to reach the top. He has described those men with hunger of power with heads of different animals. He starts with jackal and ends with fox. Each tries to create a hurdle in their respective rooms. Life itself is a conflict of different ideas, views, opinions etc where it need not be the other person but our very own self.
As far as the topic of repellent goes than we can get rid of pests by spraying heena or mehandi, red chilly powder works for cats who have the habit to get out doorstep dirty, burning of a jute sack helps get rid of mosquitoes and the list goes on and on. Thanks for this wonderful buzz, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #30 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#29 great comment @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. Yes and we have internal conflicts all the time. How many time we experince conflict of choices, conflicts between what our minds tell us and what our hearts want us to do. In oeder to deal with external conflicts we need to tackle our internal ones. May be @Harvey Lloyd would share his wisdom on your comment Joyce11/12/2017 #29 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeConflict--hmmmmm. I found myself thinking of conflict as someone else's problem. In thinking further, I know I am first submissive, and then rise to the occasion if it's something I cannot escape. I found myself musing about sitting on a country road--sitting quietly while a herd of cattle crossed. The cattle represented the conflict. Where do we draw the line as to what is conflict and what is merely being assertive I wonder?11/12/2017 #27 Yolanda Ávila - Kaizen ProyectosI remember that I mentioned this topic in another buzz. That time I recommended to see this TEDX that offers a positive approach to the conflict.
Jung thought that conflict is the essence of Life and that it is a necessary requirement for all personal and spiritual growth.
I agree with him.
Life can not be lived in the abstract.
Only through confrontation with any individual conflict, for its resolution or transcendence, do we reach the depths of ourselves.
Best Regards @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #25 Harvey Lloyd#24 I believe that "popularity" of word grows when folks use the word as a label. The label or need for one may exist, but all to often, like marketing, we want catchy quick words that will stick. Ego is one such word and matter of fact so is lust. Each of these words have natural existence within our lives. A lust for writing is appropriate where lust for the neighbors wife is not.
Being confident and secure in your leadership is ego but browbeating someone who upstaged you is not ego it's pride/vanity. It may also be considered egotistical behaviour, but is still sourced in pride and vanity. We all have ego.11/12/2017 #24 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#21 @Harvey Lloyd- you remind me of my recent buzz on lust. It has negative meaning mostly. I have lust for writing. There is nothing wrong with this. Now you add another example- being egoist. Sometimes the meaning is only possible within the framework of contest.11/12/2017 #23 Harvey Lloyd#11 "It is all too easy to be mowed over by the "shoulds" and "demands" of the season. In a stressed state, we all come one step closer to giving our internal "animal" free rein."
In our day of drama laden communication it is so easy to pick up the "hot-Potato". Showing my age here.
In construction the hot-potato was always someone who was in trouble on a project and they needed to hand off the hot-potato. This cleared them of responsibility and set you up for the fall. Simple yet effective "negotiating tactic"
In those days i had to learn how to assist without taking the potato. In some cases i just walked away.
Today they i sense that folks want us to emotion match as their is strength in numbers. This is the same thing as the yesteryear hot-potato.
I don't accept being mowed over from the start. When i sense the hot-potato being served up i know instinctively to listen, reflect and redirect or walk away. On rare occasions i will accept the potato with all the risk, but i am choosing and not being set up blindly.
Ps. my animal brain operates more like a pandora's box, once opened all of it has to exit before the lid can be placed back,. I would imagine its like this for more than would admit. Best to empty the box in meditative conditions than have to clean up the aftermath. Beware the hot-potato:)11/12/2017 #22 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#20 brilliant thoughts my dear @Lisa Vanderburg. Your reference to the internal beast is consistent with a previous comment. What I really find novel in your gorgeous comment is our tendency to "but we tend to turn away from others when our space gets to crowded and the sense of unsolvable global NEED becomes overwhelming". This is an expanded example of going against the crowd effect. You touched upon a hugely-interesting idea. I believe you should consider expanding it to a buzz. This is novelty thinking my friend.11/12/2017 #21 Harvey Lloyd#11 The word ego has always been a challenge. It seems to have taken on a very negative connotation. But i believe it is natural not only within males, strongly but also females.
Ego, or at least my definition, is the acting out of what we believe with great passion and motivation. The dictionary discusses this as "self esteem and or self importance".
I want my doctor, firefighter or policeman to have ego. I believe we have cross defined ego with "megalomania" and "vanity"
If you have collected all the information, data and resources and challenged your team with the concept of the success you propose, you should have ego, self esteem and self importance.
When the poo-poo hits the fan it is rather interesting that we all want the one with "ego" to lead us to safety. The one who shows confidence, believes in the plan or is willing to bet their own safety to include others.
So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment.11/12/2017 #20 Lisa VanderburgAs always, a buzz to make me think, dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee!! And with the highest quality of comments you always attract so well addresses, it behooves me to be the devil's advocate :)
When is conflict a good thing?
I sometimes wonder, for example; we seem to stand on the precipice of annihilation or a momentous leap to a higher being (in which case at least half of humanity won't make it...me included!). It's almost as if we need war to quell our internal beast. Clearly, it's out of the question on so many levels, but we tend to turn away from others when our space gets to crowded and the sense of unsolvable global NEED becomes overwhelming. Just thoughts......
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Comments05/12/2017 #3 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee"Sometimes it yield gulf of difference
Sometimes it brings warmth and exuberance".
I had no doubt I would read this poem tonight dear @Debasish Majumder. Yes, creative minds like yours may configure or figure out the positivity in the negativity of a conflict.
Conflict in poetry might be your next poem my friend.
- Producer07/12/2017225 Million and Counting''I am a foreigner in a foreign land and no matter how long I stay here I will always be a foreigner but not necessarily an outsider'' Paul Walters Their names could be Ahmed, Maria, Chang or Maciek they would all have an individual story and...
Comments10/12/2017 #38 Mohammed A. JawadIn the aegis of humanity, we all are human beings. Aren't we? And, we by man made rules, degrade each other and label people by this name or the other. We all belong to diverse nations, cultures and languages so that we may know each other and treat well, not to nickname and ridicule others by downgrading them. Great post @Pascal Derrien09/12/2017 #35 Pascal Derrien#34 thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher for sharing everyday examples, I think we all have them around us, we need to give proper credit to those who have taken giant steps to better their lives or is it simpler to play it down because attacking is a reflection on one's self inability :-)09/12/2017 #34 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a great piece @Pascal Derrien! We are all humans that inhabit planet earth and no one gave another the rights (with the exception of man) to make boundaries impossible to cross. I remember the Berlin wall and when it came down. I remember crying and that was the best thing that happened for many who were separated from their families, by class and more- They are a prime example of how East and West Berlin were able to come together and find common ground along with not being isolated anymore.
I admire others who move to foreign lands and learn the customs, the languages and build new friendships because you are right, that is something I would find very difficult and scary. But, the lessons each person learns from the other is invaluable, without walls- they build understanding for humanity; compassion!
I hope we do not 'build that wall,' between the US and Mexico. It takes a lot of courage and determination to come to the US with the hopes of becoming a citizen in order to make a better life for their families. I have 2 step sisters that are married to Mexican men and I can attest their husanbs work hard, put family first and even put their wives on a pedestal. They both are citizens now but it wasn't easy. My step brother in law's mother is allowed to visit X days per year and I fear she will lose that right. She has taught my step sister and her children so much as well.
Walls are ruses. I'm a big believer in inclusive societies. I hope to see more inclusion before I leave this earth. Right now, my hopes are dimmed a lot. If people really got to know others from many cultures/races they may let go of their xenophobia. Xenophobia is media and mass society produced.09/12/2017 #33 Brian McKenzie#23 I have been out of America for the last 5 years, I have no intention of going back. Prior to leaving the military sent me around the world and into the shit 9 times, none of the on ground events matched the lies they were spooling up about the 'actions' back home. DITTO for the "Migrant Crisis". It has been fully planned, engineered and prepetrated by high levels of gov't and banking. Studying livestock and ranching is instructive, they consider us nothing more than meat for the machine to be herded and slaughtered as they wish.08/12/2017 #32 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador#31 Yep, I understand. People judge others by their accent yet know nothing about the person. I don't have a distinct accent from any part of the US which I prefer not to.
My mother had a heavy southern accent and took some sort of training to get rid of it. I'm guessing her training was sometime in the 1950s. She sang professionally and I am assuming that was the reason for her wanting to shed her accent.
I love to hear accents, especially from the UK.08/12/2017 #31 Pascal Derrien#30 thanks @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador I lived in a caravan the first 3 years of my life and then did 3 schools per year on average because we were moving from/to border towns near the 4 or five countries around france I never had the right accent story of my life :-)08/12/2017 #30 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorBravo, Pascal. One that lives in the U.S. and if born in NY and moves to Kansas, can feel like a foreigner. Definition of foreigner: a person in or from a country other than one's own. Well, duh - isn't this what makes life interesting?08/12/2017 #26 Harvey Lloyd#25 I'm OK with the bias in principal as we cant really not hear or see beyond what we are exposed to. My challenge is that we take this limited exposure and then form actionable opinions. The southern accent was always an ice breaker with the turnip truck jokes but it was in jest and i didn't take offense. I got learn their culture and they mine.
Today is different though. Fear based presentations of the 10% have now spread to define whole cultures. Naturally the natives extend this fear across all unknowns. The bias has now pushed back to the outsider to prove they are "safe".
Bias cant be helped, but with executive function we can examine that bias before we act in any setting. Unfortunately executive function seems to be devolving back to cave painting.
You would be welcome around here boss. If you do get around the US let me know i have two sleeping pills waiting. I need you take that nap and finish the hung up airplane story.08/12/2017 #24 Harvey LloydThis is a very challenging topic, but very interesting. Especially if you come from we are all human perspective. Why do natives tend to reject outsiders naturally? I have never lived abroad, pretty much a homeboy. Yet when traveling north in the US, my southern accent i was always treated as though the turnip truck must have broke down nearby.
My own theory, after experiencing this many times over twenty years, was that folks had a portrait of southerners that was born from nebulous conversations that were harmless, yet formed the opinion. I also recognized that i was an ambassador of the South:) Overtime i made some great Yankee friends and we all laughed at the differences. Yanks are pretty straight forward about their thoughts, southerners tend to flavor thoughts with mystery to keep you guessing.
Cultural differences i am sure were felt when we were more nomadic in life as tribes had to figure out who was safe and who was not. Different traditions, morals and values are difficult to understand if they have not been part of your narrative. I believe there is a onus upon each side to understand the dance steps of figuring each other out.
Media today though has really planted some ill seeds of cultures, keeping the dance from happening.
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Comments08/12/2017 #16 Geoff Hudson-Searle#1 I could not agree more @Pascal Derrien in life we make decisions, we have the choice to remain or make a change, to create and make a bed and to lie on it or as Kevyn Aucoin once said ' Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices - today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. Great buzz @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. love the topic! :-)07/12/2017 #14 Deborah LevineI'm not a big fan of winter, cold weather, and bare trees, but they are a reminder of the cycle of seasons and of life. Humanity's need to find peace, joy, and miracles at this time reflects our understanding of the fragile gift of life and of the precious light that sustains us. While I'm not a materialistic person, I do horde family artifacts and encourage others to do the same and share at this time of year. Old letters and photographs, decorations and keepsakes, all those precious items that link us to the past, these are what we need to collect and preserve. Be grateful for living memories and feel the love that they hold within.07/12/2017 #13 Joanne GardockiThank you, @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. what a lovely and timely buzz. You are so right about healing and peace coming from being with nature. The bare trees silhouetted against the sunset is a treasure this time of year. It is the only time you really see the beautiful symmetry of trees. There is nothing like moonlight reflected on fresh snow. My favorite part of Christmas is selecting toys and clothing to donate to those in need. Our local YMCA, Heifer International and Toys for Tots are favorite charities. I feel like I have grandchildren and family all over the world. Hanukkah is a celebration of miracles also. Embrace the peace and joy of the season. ::hugs::07/12/2017 #12 John RylanceOne of my guiding principles is that I can only influence or change something I have an element of control over.
On the want/need front I wonder if there is much difference between the two.
I wonder if you were to change the Queen lyrics from I want it all I want it now to I need it all I need it now. Both to my mind can be construed as forceful demands#1107/12/2017 #11 Lisa VanderburgI wish for nothing, and I have little; that's my highlight and I applaud others that have understood that 'want' is not the same as 'need'. My life is both hard and complicated, and I'm fairly sure it's all my fault, lovely @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. View moreI wish for nothing, and I have little; that's my highlight and I applaud others that have understood that 'want' is not the same as 'need'. My life is both hard and complicated, and I'm fairly sure it's all my fault, lovely @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. :)
But...on occasions, I remember that I have no control and just go with the flow - delightful! Close07/12/2017 #10 Randall BurnsWonderful post @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. I agree with your message completely, it is unfortunate that "people have lost their way". You're right in that spending time in Nature is always therapeutic and healing.
I'm reminded of a quote by Confucius;
"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated"07/12/2017 #9 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#8 my pleasure @Tausif Mundrawala well said06/12/2017 #8 Tausif MundrawalaWell for me living in the moment means a lot and that too to the fullest. Am glad that you shared this buzz with us, my friend @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.06/12/2017 #7 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.happy to read that wonderful bee @Debasish Majumder, great week to you06/12/2017 #6 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#3 thank you @John Rylance much appreciated.06/12/2017 #5 Debasish Majumderlovely buzz@Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.! enjoyed read and shared. thanks for the buzz.06/12/2017 #4 Hector Fong Mendoza06/12/2017 #3 John RylanceI prefer a mixture of both to have an experience and have something to remind me of that experience. We so easily forget or misremember experiences in the past. Things will act as memory joggers.
If we relied purely/mainly on experience, how would we help those with senile dementia remember, or even ourselves?
So much of our enjoyment of experiences come from things that trigger our reliving of the experience both good and bad.06/12/2017 #2 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.#1 thank you @Pascal Derrien for your lovely comments have a wonderful day
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Comments08/12/2017 #7 Yolanda Ávila - Kaizen Proyectos#6 I think it's a magical time.
Every year, events occur in Nature and the cosmos that make it special.
And the Human Being is part of them.
Great minds that have preceded us and some current ones have written about it (Georg Kühlewind).
I wish you a happy Winter Solstice and a lot of peace, love and prosperity for the new year.
Have a nice day Erroll06/12/2017 #1 Lisa VanderburgI think you have achieved what so many of us have tried and failed; an understanding of what we really NEED to do to celebrate our thanks this time of year! It is peaceful, harmonious and utterly beautiful and I so applaud you for it, lovely @Yolanda Ávila - Kaizen Proyectos View moreI think you have achieved what so many of us have tried and failed; an understanding of what we really NEED to do to celebrate our thanks this time of year! It is peaceful, harmonious and utterly beautiful and I so applaud you for it, lovely @Yolanda Ávila - Kaizen Proyectos - thank you and may many read and learn from this unconditional gift! Close
- Producer05/12/2017Six Manipulation Tactics Everyone Should Learn to Recognize and ManageAs part of the communication/ messaging series I am doing with Graham Edwards, I thought it would be interesting to write about manipulative communication. If manipulators had horns, they would be easy to recognize. Quite often, the biggest...
Comments08/12/2017 #20 Cyndi wilkins#18 These types tend to be on the spectrum with BPD's, narcissists and sociopaths...They are very cunning pathological liars...and the scariest part of that is they truly believe their own lies as truth...and do not give a rat's fanny about the consequences of their behavior or it's effect on others. Best suggestion...head for the hills...and if you must engage...wear your emotional body armor.07/12/2017 #18 Deas PlantHi, Renee Cormier.
A VERY good article, very clear and informative . Thank you.
One suggestion if I may - it might help a lot of people if you were to do a follow-up article on the main personalities and character types who employ manipulative tactics. Yes, I know that this behaviour is not restricted to any specific personality types but I was thinking in terms of narcissists, borderlines, etc..
I had a 20-year marriage and a 10-years de facto relationship, BOTH with manipulative partners.
Just my 0.02. Thanks again.
You have a wonderful day. Best wishes. Deas Plant.07/12/2017 #14 Cyndi wilkinsGreat piece @Renée 🐝 Cormier...Many become very diabolical in their tactics, but somehow manage to come out smelling like a rose in the blinded eyes of others...Frustrating people...especially when they are family and you are forced to engage with them on occasion...I find it best to keep these interactions short and emotionally detached...06/12/2017 #10 Renée 🐝 Cormier#7 Thanks for sharing, Lisa. These are pretty common manipulative techniques, but as I mentioned in the comment below, this list barely scratches the surface. People who twist the meaning of your words into something you didn't intend are also a real pain in the ass. I could go on all day with things I have experienced and read about. I think most of us run into these tactics here and there throughout our lives. If you don't naturally work that way, then it is hard to imagine people can favour that type of communication.06/12/2017 #7 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI've heard the term gaslighting before but never knew what it meant. Wow, other than the master manipulators, they seem to be a scary group too. I think I've run across all of these types through out my life. You are spot on with your description @Renée 🐝 Cormier View moreI've heard the term gaslighting before but never knew what it meant. Wow, other than the master manipulators, they seem to be a scary group too. I think I've run across all of these types through out my life. You are spot on with your description @Renée 🐝 Cormier, thanks! Close
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